my mom keeps on smokin' how should i get her to stop?

Question

she says she promises. but she don't listen!

Answer 1

My mom is a smoker, it`s not my place as her child to tell her to quit smoking. As long as she doesn`t smoke in my house or in front of my children, she can do whatever she wants. I wouldn`t want my kids telling me that I can`t have my coffee, or drink my Pepsi, why would I tell my mom she can` smoke. My theory is , Good Person, Bad Habit! As long as they don`t expose you to second hand smoke, then I would let her quit in her own time.

Answer 2

I have the same problem. I am 15 and I hate that she smokes. I guess I am greatful she only does it outside but still. I think that there is not much you can do. When I tell my mom, she kinda laughs me off. My mom doesnt really like to talk about it. Maybe you could hide her cigarettes, but hope that wont get her mad at you. I know this may sound mena but if you ever had your mom yell at you, why dont you like ''yell'' at her? If you say the right stuff you might get through to her. Tell her she is setting a bad example for you and that you are getting in trouble from second hand smoke. I wish I could give you an answer. I wish I could tell my mom those things but it would make my mom mad. I wish I had an answer for you and myself. I hope someone gives you a better answer. I really do know hwat you feel like.

I would rather give you my opinion than an answer. I am not looking for a best answer at all because this question means something ot me too. I hope you find an answer that suits you the best!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Roger N actually had some good ideas!

I spent my life watching my dad try to give up smoking, and he finally did...when he was diagnosed with lung cancer, so we all got to watch him die. I am not trying to make things worse here - maybe you can print some of these answers out and give them to your mom.

Why I wish my dad had stopped smoking when he was younger [he died Dec 05]:
--we had a big ice storm a few months ago and lost power for 8 days; some funny things happened, and he would have laughed really hard about them if I had gotten to tell him
--my kids went out for soccer and I couldn't send him a picture
--my husband has high cholesterol and Dad can't help me with recipes
--my mom has gone off the deep end since Dad died
--my sister's kids really had behavior problems from living next door and watching Grandpa die
--my mom doesn't come to visit me anymore because she can't drive that far by herself
--my husband has done Mom's taxes for 2 years and boy is that a pain

Even though for 15 years I have lived far away from my parents, Dad was always there when I called, and boy do I miss him. You know, after he got lung cancer, he wished in the worst kind of way that he had stopped smoking when he was younger,but you can't turn time back. I think that anyone that could see the way my dad wasted away or see the grief my family has gone through would stop smoking. Please tell your mother that.

Answer 4

Man I know how you are feeling.. I begged my mom to quit all the time and it is extremely hard for them to stop. Please don't aggravate her about it .. it will just make it worse. Not to bring you down.. but I lost my Mother to lung cancer, she was only 57 and I miss her so much especially right now I am pregnant and would love to have her here with me.
Don't fight about it.. ask her what will it take to help her stop? She will need alot of support and trust me this will be the hardest thing she'll ever try to do. Ask her to try the patches and when she says they are so expensive.. tell her to add up the amount of those cigarettes and see which one is cheaper. Find her a hobby to do to keep her mind off of smoking and also show her pictures of what lung cancer looks like.. and tell her that this can be you and I do not want to lose you to something like this.. it is painful and you mean to much to me to lose like that. My mom and I would go on trips and this would cut down on her smoking alot.. and even some days she would only have one or two instead of a pack or two. Tell her you love her all the time. Good luck with this and just don't nag her about it.

Answer 5

i have the same problem with my dad. try tellin her that ur really worried about her smokin' and stuff and suggest that she go to the doctor. there's a lot of products out there that might help, too. and keep on her! i annoy my dad like crazy when he goes out to have a smoke, but i don't know how well that'll work for evryone. usually he just walks away.

this might get her upset at u but if ur really desperate, steal the cigarretes and bury them or throw them away. or hide all the lighers in ur house so she can't light one. my uncle smokes too and my cuz tried stealin' his cigarettes and soakin' em in water cuz she got in trouble for throwin' them away. idk if the water thing worked or not.she never told me.

i've always wanted to try this but i haven't yet- ask her how many cigarettes/packs she smokes in a day. like, say the cost of one pack was $3.00, and she smoked a pack a day, just hypothetically. well, if you do some multiplying.... she spends $1,095 dollars a year on cigarettes!

Answer 6

Dawn, I started smoking about nine years ago, stopped once for a year and a half. My 11 year old daughter is ALWAYS telling me how bad it affects my health and is always asking me to stop. But, being addicted to nicotine makes it extremely hard. I wish I could. I wish I WANTED to quit, but I just don't. There is nothing you can do or say to make her quit. She has to want to quit on her own.

By the way, I NEVER smoke in the house, and I don't let my kids come close to me while I'm smoking.

Answer 7

Ask your mom to let you sit in the garage with the car running. When she freaks out and asks you "Why?", just tell her that her smoking has the same affect on you.
or...
Use your crayons or a pen and pretend to smoke and tell her that you want to grow up just like her.
or...
Look around for an oxygen mask and wear it every time she lights up.
or..
Ask if you could join her too.

Answer 8

Hello!

i know you care about your mother, and you want her to stop smoking....

you mother has to make the decision to want to stop smoking... so it's entirely up to her.

nicotine addiction isn't easy beat. but you can remind your mom that she'd feel better if she quit smoking and she would he healthier....

i hope your mother decides to quit for her own health and those around her! i think you've done everything you can do... meanwhile, avoid smoking in your own life

sending hugs!

Answer 9

sweetie that is a very hard habit to stop.Ask her to go to the Dr for help, i just got the new pills that are out to help stop smoking, i wish you the best, good luck

Answer 10

She has to want to stop. You can't make her stop. But you can try showing her pictures of a smoker's lung.