I have been married for 3 months two days ago, we have been thru so much crap in that 3 months, and now he decided he thinks we seprated , and we did, and lost our home and all, and now he is calling me telling me he loves me , and that he wants us to get back together but the catch is we have to put our relationship on hold for 6 or more weeks, then live together again in a new place. but i dont know if i should, contact me on yahoo messsy at xbitchy.girlx
2007-03-16 02:57:07 · 9 answers · asked by Melindakaye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it was a rental, and he left with out me having a job, so i couldnt pay for it, and the other is we were arguing every day, and we couldnt see eye to eye on nothing , he is kinda high maitenence and im not. he is kinda on the high pretty boy side and im low country girl side if you understand. He never seen nothing my way, but im not the one who brought up leaving he did, and he actually went thru with it. I dont know what else to do . I mean i asked him what if we did get back together and lets say years down the road, there is more problems then we are back to square one , and bamm we lost more time . and the 6 weeks is cause we did lose the home, an he is living with his brother , and its gonna take 6 weeks to get a new place ...so
2007-03-16 03:07:15 · update #1
I always heard the first year is the toughest year a couple will go through. From experience, it is. Your getting used to living with another person, that yes you know, you've decided to spend your life with this person, right? You love him, and you want the best, and that's why you married him. But its new, and it takes time. I truely do not know the whole story here, and i'm just going on what I know, being that I've been through it. If you want to work it out, I personally would start now, and not wait. But if you do not see a future with your spouse, then tell him, and move on.
2007-03-16 03:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to get a pretty good explanation of why the 6+ week wait was necessary. If you want to start working on a marriage, why wait?
I'm also not sure why living in a new place is necessary, either. Perhaps the home brings back bad memories?
However, you have only been married three months. Assuming the differences you had can be resolved, you may owe it to yourself to give your marriage one more chance. You can always decide to leave later, but once you do leave, there's no going back.
2007-03-16 03:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is quite clear that lots of people don't really understand what a marriage is. You guys have to remember that you are 2 different people trying to live together. Of course you will disagree on lots of things but you have to rise above all of this and remember why you got married in the first place, where is the love and attraction that brought you two together in the first place. Forget all that **** about arguing, marriage is about compromise and you both knew your backgrounds before you got married. What's the problem now??? work it out!!!
2007-03-16 03:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need more information here. Why exactly did you separate after three months? What did your husband do during that three months? Why did you lose your house? Was it a rental or a mortgage? It takes longer then three months to get evicted. Sometimes the first yeasr of marriage can be trying to say the least. But, fill in more details and I can advise you more fully!
2007-03-16 03:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....talk about the honeymoon being over before its started. The marriage is a dismal failure. One for the books in fact. Of course any attempt to make this work obviously is a joke. Just the fact that one party expresses a strong desire to start again but attaches so many caveats to it guarantee its total failure.
you do what you want. Quite frankly this bears no further discussion. You enter into this pact with Satan and you're doomed before you start. I'm fascinated that you don't see this and even ask advice on it as well.
2007-03-16 03:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand how a relationship can suddenly fall apart shortly after tieing the knot...
Obviously the two of you need to grow up and learn how to compromise with eachother. Running away from eachother (seperating) isn't going to fix any problems, its only going to give them room to grow.
Either address your problems, or get rid of them all together by divorce. The two of you need to stop running away and sticking your head in the ground hoping they will disappear. Marriage is hard work, and it gets harder as the relationship ages and matures.
If you aren't willing to do the work, then you aren't ready to be in a committed relationship.
2007-03-16 03:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to give up so soon?
Marriage is about sacrifice and compromise.
You have to be willing to face the challanges and work through them together. It's not easy ... no marriage is but if you are really commited in this marriage don't you think its worth it in the long run? Do you want to look back later and life and say What if?
2007-03-16 03:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't work out in the first place, what makes you think it would work out for the rest of your life??
Common Sense takes over on this factor.
2007-03-16 03:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not agree with this, tell him he needs to come up with a Plan B.
2007-03-16 03:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋