I'm scared ... I'm pregnant and my dad said at first that he is going to beat my *** if I am... But then he said a couple days later that he would be supportive of me and he wouldn't let the father (my boyfriend) come around me or the baby but my boyfriend said that he would take really good care of the baby and of me!!!! What should I DO?????
~!~I NEED HELP~!~
2007-03-16 02:45:55 · 18 answers · asked by ~LYNN~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell your dad, and explain to him that you want your baby's father in the baby's life.
2007-03-16 02:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a nasty situation for you. There are several things to be taken in to consideration. One, your age as if you are still in your parents care, they basically get to decide what is best for you. Two, if you want to keep this baby? Your dad sounds like he was angry at first but loves you so has changed his supportive role and is sticking by you. I think your boyfriend sounds decent to accept his responsibilities, Make sure he is reliable because sometimes people you think you know and trust can let you down. Particularly if he is young and may scare. It is easier for him because it isnt happeneing to his body and that you will be the main responsible carer for your baby. I see it, if the man is willing to accept respnsibility and be a good dad then they should be given the chance, for yours and your baby's sake, unless there are other factors (drugs, domestic violence, etc for example). Your father cant stop the babys father being a father cause the baby is a part of your boyfriend. What are his parents doing on his half? I think you really have to think what you want to do and dont listen to anybody else becasue it is your body and your baby which will be in your life forever. Consider yourself.....and THEN others, otherwise you wont have made the decision for you!
Try calling some advice lines in your area. I think you could need all the support you can get. You must feel really vulnerable at the mo. Poor thing.
Take care and remember to smile x
2007-03-16 10:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by alexa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Dad is a little emotional about his little girl. If you don't think you can talk to your dad about this on your own. See if you can confide in someone to help break the news. Dad will probably be disappointed and even not want the boyfriend around at first. But that's just a first reaction. As time goes by, things should get easier. If boyfriend wants to be supportive, he needs to be. Because once that baby comes he has to be responsible in one way or other. Like Child Support. You didn't say how old you are, but if you are pregnant your life is fixing to change in a big way and I think your dad will be the least of your worries.
2007-03-16 10:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant, you need all of the support you can get regardless of who's angry at the situation. I had prenate medicaid and that helped me a lot financially. Eventually your dad will come around. For some reason when babies are brought into the world that brings people together. Your dad will always be your dad but he's needs to understand that you are going to be a mother to someone now and that you need to make your own choices. Just remember to make the right choices and be honest about how you feel because being pregnant is a emotional roller coaster. If your boyfriend is going to step up to the plate to be a good man, you will see it, if not you need to get child support once the baby is born. You shouldn't have to raise the baby alone if he helped you to make one. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 10:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Shanee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and have your mom help you tell your dad! The next thing you need to do is tell your dad what you want. Once you 1. hit 18 you can move out w/out your parents permission or 2. you have a baby you are legally; in NY anyways; concidered an adult and your father has no say over you. and if your father lays a hand on you you can call the police, b/c it will be concidered Indangerin the welfare of a minor. B/c your carring a baby! So really you have the law on your side, and everything will work out. just talk to your mom, or a female figure, that you know you can trust and one that will help you! good luck i hope this helps! Congrads!
God Bless, i will be keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Brandie
email me if you need anything else trouble0218@yahoo.com i'm always here! gl again
2007-03-16 09:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Boyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its likely that your dad only made angry remarks because he was upset... and scared about the prospects of you being pregnant. Saying he won't let the childs father come around is ridiculous. legally he cannot keep the child from its father, nor can you (unless he is physically abusive or harmful to the child's wellbeing). it's likely that your father is just angry at the guy for knocking you up. You don't mention your age but I think it would be worth your while to consider the options you have with this pregnancy. keeping and raising the child is not always the best choice. You may want to talk to your mom about this, or a teacher you trust. if you can, I'd recommend visiting a doctor to discuss your options. there are a lot of women out there who would LOVE to adopt your child if you feel that you cannot adequately provide for and care for it. Good luck, but in the end, these choices are yours and not your boyfriends and certainly not your fathers. good luck to you and the little one.
2007-03-16 10:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by kerri c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that there are some missing elements to this story. How old are you? Has your boyfriend done something to you in the past that would support your father being so protective of you and your unborn baby? If you're still living with your father and he's offering to support you and baby (and you're on his insurance) it may be best to stay. Once your father is over the initial shock, you may be able to talk him into letting your boyfriend be in your life (unless of course he's done something bad). Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 10:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad doesnt want you to be hurt. he also doesnt want a dadless grandkid either. tje only person he can blame is your boyfriend. talk with your dad. br mature so hell see your ready to be a mom and explain to him that hey your scared and your so glad he is being supportive. you need him in all aspects of this, but you also need your boyfriends help and support. ask your dad what would you have done if you didnt have a father. you love having him a a father and wouldnt want your baby to go without one. have a meeting with your boyfriend good luck
2007-03-16 09:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there at 16 i know. yur dad is very mad still right now and is trying to let it sink in that his little girl is having a baby. he cannot take it out on you because your his daughter carrying his grandchild so he'll try tp punish the next best thing. give him some time to digest your situation. just like your life is going to change his will too! let him approach your dad with his views then you both do it and see how it turns out.
2007-03-16 09:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Snickerlicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie i wish the best for you.Thats a hard one there, you need your parents and the bf if he is going to satnd by you, i hope it all works out for you, I am sure that your dad will come around after the shock wears off good luck
2007-03-16 09:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋