2007-03-16 02:40:13 · 15 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not. I can relate. I love my husband very dearly however, I am not in love with him. We have so much turmoil in our marriage and so many ignored issues regarding my unmet needs. He does not want a divorce while I often feel that I do. You are like me, very giving. Consider your happiness first.
2007-03-16 02:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Eyed Angel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it makes you a bad person, it just sounds like you've grown apart from him and wanting to move on etc...tons of people do that; married or not, you know? I'd say not to drag it out though, that will really cause some serious hurt towards him though. Just make sure you have your ducks in a row, mentally, financially, legally, where to move to, being able to pay bills, hiring the attorney; and the biggest thing is if it's going to be a dissolution (where parties are supposed to split everything in half) or an acutal divorce (when one sues the other for something).
2007-03-16 03:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think some details would help, anyway i don´t think u r bad. I want 2 believe that there´s a reason y u don´t return the love 2 ya husband... r u keeping it 4 someone else? If so, DIVORCE as soon as possible.
2007-03-16 02:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not the person now that he was when you married him ,,,, then I can't see that you are so bad ,,,, It's hard staying in a marriage where there is no love ,,,, You could get as much if not more being single and having a friend with benefits ,,,,
I figured I should keep the answer as brief as the question ,,,, You didn't include any amplifying information,,,,
Good post though ,,,, If you get more than one star for it ,,,, one of them is from me ,,,,
2007-03-16 03:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not bad but you are insensitive and self-centered.
Why did you get married if you did not love him in the first place? Everyone deserves to be loved including your husband. Communicate with him from the heart and compromise on saving the marriage or getting a divorce.
2007-03-16 02:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends why you want the divorce. If you don't have the same feelings for him that he has for you - then it's right to divorce him and let him find someone who can reciprocate - it's not bad, it's just the right thing to do.
If something else is going on where you aren't loving him the same way you used to, then you need to explore that and decide if this is something that can be worked on and fixed.
2007-03-16 02:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh ...Im returning his love all right... Im going to give him exactly what he wanted... The only difference is the game plan changed and instead of him thinking I would wither and die ... or go crazy... I recieved everything including my freedom... His wishes ... be careful what you wish for .. Dreams do come true!!!! Is is true what they say .... . Its not the game you play but how you play it that counts!!!!!!!! Unfortunately, this is not a game and this is my life .... Not his!
2007-03-16 02:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you don't love him, you are a bad person for staying with him and leading him to believe you do love him. Why stay in a loveless marriage? Things will just go from bad to worse.
2007-03-16 02:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends, why aren't you returning his love. is it because you don't love him in return or that you just don't feel like it. have you grown tired or just found another interest. in any case the answer is yes. move on and wait for true love.
2007-03-16 02:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by MamaLady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are not a bad person for not loving someone. at the end of the day you just have to follow your heart. good luck.
2007-03-16 02:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by aussiejoeanne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋