Called Othello? My father, Senator Brabantio, is against it, but I am in love.
Desdemona
2007-03-16 02:34:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. I hear that he loves not wisely, but too well.
Run now!
(Wow, are people really not getting this?)
2007-03-16 02:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Desdemona, beware of what you wish for, because I don't know if you realize what goes into being a Muslim wife. You have to wear a head cover, a Burka, and be totally subservant to your husband. He also has the right to physically abuse you if he pleases and no one will lift a finger to help you. The culture is male oriented. You have absolutely no rights as a Muslim wife. Your husband will make all decisions. He also has the right to take other wives if he pleases. If the marriage does not work out, your ex husband will have total parental rights and you will not be able to even see your own children. Take out the video "Not Without My Daughter" with Sally Field, and you will see what it is like to be a Muslin wife. Not a pretty picture. Your Father and other concerned people are right. You think you are in love. Think about a life of almost slavery, where you will not be able to have a personal thought of your own, where you will lose your individuality totally. Do not listen to your Muslim fiance, because you will be fed a BS line from him to get you to marry him, then the tables will turn quickly. Listen, the reason I know alot is that my neice married a Muslim and went to live in his country and what I told you all happened to her. She was totally destroyed by this marriage, lost her children and had to flee to the U.S. She is now rebuilding her life, but she longs to see her two daughters who are now teenagers and do not know their own mother. He turned them against her. It is a very tragic story and it is true. Try to listen to people that love you and are concerned before it is too late.
2007-03-16 06:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to share your husband possibly with a lot of other women then go ahead. I have heard (not sure if it is true or not) that Muslim men tend to have a way of getting way with having multiple wives. I am not trying to burst your bubble, I am trying to warn you of something I heard when I was younger. I would also suggest having your family's blessing, in any marriage wether or not he is Muslim or Jew, Or whatever. I would say deffinatly pray about it, and if you go to church...get the wisdom of your minister. After that is all said and done, maybe you and this man should sit down with your father and find out why he is so against you marrying hm. Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do.
2007-03-16 02:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take your time, be patient. Talk to your parent and explain to him about your love and feeling of each other. Do not offend your parent just because he against it. U must be able to convince him and tell him that everything will be fine. Tell him that U are proud of your parent and his position as a senator. U are not to embarrass him with the marriage. Tell that it is just love that U need to be together. Persuade your parent, I belief if U could make him understand, he will agree.
2007-03-16 05:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think Muslim men have much respect for women, along with other issues. I would suggest you educate yourself on the Muslim religion first, as you will be subjected to it for the rest of your life. Personally, I'd say no. Combining different faiths can be very, very difficult and a source of discord in a relationship.
2007-03-16 03:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm assuming you are not Muslim. I would think it would be very difficult to marry outside your faith, especially if he's devout. Religion is one of the compatibility issues that have to be resolved. It either has to matter to neither of you, or one of the two of you. In other words, you have to decide if this matters or not. If he's said that he won't make you practice then that's better. You also need to discuss with which religion the children will be raised. I'm guessing it would be Islam. Are you okay with that?
2007-03-16 02:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is you happiness not your fathers if he treats you good then HELL YEAH your father will eather come around to be happy or he wont but its your life and you make yourself first thenhyou can work on other people. use your heart not your mind thats what your hearts for
2007-03-16 02:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's up to you. but keep in mind, in a muslim marriage the man is the boss and woman have to do as they are told. think carefully.
2007-03-16 03:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by aussiejoeanne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him and you think that this man is you ''other half'' then you should go on with what your heart says.God is love,and love has no discriminations.Great rewards come to those who are really able to love.
2007-03-16 02:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bebis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats up to you.You are the one that will have to live with the guy not your Dad.If he is good to you and you are happy go for it.Hope you have a happy life
2007-03-16 02:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by toomuchpain 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋