why marrige at early age is considered wrong?

Question

y is there ny proof tht it cnt be sucessful

Answer 1

I think it can be successful. But most parents, see their child getting married young and say, 'I wish you will wait.' Because they want to see their child happy.
We were married at 19, and we got the old saying of 'it will never last' or 'i give it 6 months' ......Yes its hard to be married young. But my husband and I realized something this last year. Of all the couples, that we knew personally, that got married when we did, like we did, (at a young age ). We are the only ones who are still married.
So it can work, but parents and others, are going to say that simply because they don't want to see you hurt.

Answer 2

Is not wrong, it just has fewer chances to last.

And is not only the age, what really matters is for how long the couple has been knowing each other and sharing a life together.

The real mistake is to jump into matrimony if you barely know each other. Unless both are extremely lucky or they both have lots of patience and understanding, chances are they will discover many things about each other that they don’t like, and unless they sacrifice a lot for each other, they wil not last. And add to that the stress of having a house, having a family, maybe children, etc, etc.

And if you do this at a young age, then you also add the inexperience, and the fact that one or both of them might later on regret the fact that they lost their young years and never went out with different people, etc, etc. same old stuff.

This is not always the case, some young couples get marry when they are still teenagers and they stay together and have a wonderful family. But is not what we usually see.

And don’t forget, the younger you are, the less chances you have to have a good job and make good money to have a family. Most divorces of young couples happen because of that. They just can’t make it on their own, and things go down the drain. Our society is based on money, and unless you just won a big lottery (not just a million or two, but big so you can really live out of interest only), you need to make money somehow before you get marry, otherwise chances are it will not last even if there is real love.

Reality sucks.

Answer 3

because everyone changes between the ages of say 16 and 25. You change your occupation, the place you live, the hobbies you have, you acquire new friends, new interests, new qualifications, even new takes on politics...... If the person you want to marry at 16 happens to change in the same ways that you change, that's great, but chances are you will change in different ways and end up having very little in common. For instance, your partner might leave school at 16, take a dead-end job, go down the pub every night and live with his parents till he's 30. If you go on to university, get a professional career, buy a nice house, spend your evenings going to the theatre and stand for parliament, then clearly it's not going to work out between you two. That's an extreme example, but different attitudes can cause problems in a relationship.

Answer 4

It can definitly be successful. The reason that it usually isn't is because at a young age people have experienced enough. They don't know how to deal with other people as well as they will when they get older so if there is a misunderstanding it has more negative impact on the marriage. Also, they havn't had enough time to live and find out what they want from their careers, from other people or from life in general. It's hard to committ to someone for life when that's the case. It can work but it's really hard.

Answer 5

On my honeymoon I met a couple who's been married for fifty years and they said they got married at 17. I thought that was amazing, but those were different times back then. The country seemed a little more conservative and Christian. Now, todays sexualized pop culture takes some time to get over, in fact, some people never get over it. I know I wasn't ready for marriage from 17-25 I enjoyed dating too much. Sew your wild oats before getting married. As a young person I also had to experience certain pitfalls that gave experience and wisdom that make me a stronger person today. Take your time experience life, gain some knowledge and wisdom and one day you'll make a great husband and a father.

Answer 6

people say that getting married at an early age isnt successful, because usually, marriage before the age of 25 doesnt last, there have been many cases of young adults getting married, and it only lasting a year or so. Sometimes, rather it be the man or women, they tend to get the 7yr itch really early on in the marriage. It isnt wrong to get married at an early age, society just doesnt see the marriages lasting long, but i think if you really love the person, and you think you are ready to do it.,

Answer 7

I don't think it's considered "wrong" in that sense of the word. It's just that those of us that have "been there, done that" now realize we should have listened to our parents and waited longer. I'm sure there are statistics out there, but what I think really matters is the maturity level of the two who are getting married. Are they able to support themselves and not rely on mom and dad? Do they have good jobs, an education, and have they discussed what they expect from each other and their marriage to make it successful? Are the able to communicate properly?

I know a few people who have been together since high school, got married after college, they are in the 30's and still together.

Answer 8

Because when you are young you cant handle the pressures or stresses, because you have no life experience. I married at 18, my husband was 31---you have no idea how many times i would freak and try to run away. I was a 23 year old widow, so that made it even worse. Its too hard at any age. But at such a young age, you really have no idea what you want or how your going to get it. It can work, my parents married at 18 still together 30 years later.

Answer 9

Because at a young age you are usually not emotionally mature enough to handle marriage. Marriage is a serious commitment and it requires a lot of work in order to make it last. Most people that get married young do not stay together or have an unhappy marriage because they got married too young. It's better to wait until you are older.

Answer 10

There are some young marriages that are successfull but they certainly are not common. The biggest problems that people run into when they get married young is that they are changing at such a fast pace. Think of how young you were 5 years ago. Lots of growth isn't there.
Most marriages can't handle this much change. Your husband is going to change too so if you do get married be prepared.