2007-03-16 02:32:03 · 20 answers · asked by smith_dynasty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's a good one. and i hope that i'm never stuck in that situation. i would hope that i would have a loving and understanding partner that would work with me and do whatever it takes to feel that 'love' again.
i wouldn' give up yet. but this is something you two need to discuss. because maybe he doesn't know that you are feeling this way. even though you are probably throwing signals out. and he's missing them
NEVER tell another man about your feelings. because they could use that against you and try to fill in that void that you are feeling. and you being vulnerable it probably wouldn't take much..
talk to your husband/boyfriend and tell him that although you are having these feelings that you love him so much that you want to fix it together, and be 'in love' with him again.
i hope that it works out for you. but you really need to confront the issue. it won't resolve its self..
good luck.
2007-03-16 02:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a such thing of loving someone but not being in love with them. It seems there is a lot of that going on today but few recognize this. I think this means it is time to call it quits because you are not going to be able to give that person the love that they want if you don't feel it yourself and you will be wasting valuable time trying to make yourself feel something that is not there. You would only be deceiving you and the other person. Let them know how you feel ad you two may even be good friends but until you really feel it or know that it exists you need to let that person go. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 03:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by mamashortydoowop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lame statement that people (usually women) make which means they love their husband but he doesn't excite her as he used to.
Part of this is people taking their relationship for granted. The other part is that the "tingle" of a new relationship can never be duplicated. Recent studies (check out last year's Nat Geo article on "love") shows that the chemical changes in the brain which occur during "love" do not last more than 2 years.
This doesn't mean marriage and love cannot and are not exciting even after many years, but it doesn't come automatically.
When it gets to that point - it is easy to blame the other person. The best thing to do is to go out of your way to make them feel special and loved. Over and over again. At first they will wonder what got into you, but then they will begin reciprocating.
You get out of a relationship what you put into it. That tingle doesn't come automatically anymore. Whatever tingle you find with a new person will also fade. You need to work work work at it all the time. And it's worth every bit of the effort.
2007-03-16 02:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is just a phase for you. Just let the feelings fade on there own. Or just wait a little while to see how things change. Yes you can love someone but not be in love with them. I do it all the time. But because I never act on this, I find that I do really love and am in love with my spouse.
Something will happen that will change your mind about this. He/She will do something for you (however little it may be)that will shift your thinking and feelings.
If you tell your spouse what you are feeling, it will hurt them, and they could do something that the both of you could regret. And all for what? Some feeling that you may or may not have. Just wait, see what happens. Give it a couple of months and if your feelings are still the same, then talk to them.
2007-03-16 02:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't "happen". It is not a matter of "being" in it or not "being" in it. Love is a choice. You choose to love someone or you choose not to. And if you don't feel the chemistry is there then you will not choose to love them with the same intimate love needed for romance. But you can love them just as you love close friends and people that hold a special place in your life on any level.
2007-03-16 02:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by asparks05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not call it quits if you are marriage. Marriage is forever, that is the problem with our society now. That warm tingly goo goo ga ga feeling is not going to last forever. The love is actually what keeps you together. You have to learn how to be friends. And if you find yourself feeling as though you are not in love anymore you need to revert back to the things that made you fall in love with each other in the first place. Start dating and getting to know one another again. Be spontaneous. Talk to each other. He may be worn and torn but he is yourn. LOL
2007-03-16 02:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. But that is not a reason to call it quits. At one time you were in love with that person and chances are things can change and you can get that back again. The trick is to remember why you feel in love with that person and to see if that reason is still there. As you grow you change and sometimes you grow apart as you change. You have to try and imagine your life without them in it. And try to get back what you feel you lost.
2007-03-16 02:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It is possible to continue to love someone and no longer be in love with them. This is my definition: Being in love = being in lust (physical desire), loving the person = you love everything except there is no desire, attraction or chemistry.
Were you ever in love with this person?
What made the flame vanished (it takes two)?
Remember: Relationships are complex and you have to put a lot of efforts as well as the other person. Good relationships are made. If this is your boyfriend/girlfriend? Be honest and give each other time and space.
Is this person your husband/wife? Any kids? I would try everything to save the relationship and if it doesn't work than move on. Moving on and letting go is easier once you had done everything to save the relationship.
2007-03-16 02:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is patient, love is kind, is not jealous, love does not brag and agrogant, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love is a choice not a feeling. If you're married, it's (supposed) to be for life. so don't call it quits. Accept them as they are and encourage them to be better.
2007-03-16 02:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you want to call it quits, then you don't even love that person. I don't think you know what love is.
2007-03-16 02:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋