Basically, the owner of my small company hates me. He pulled me into his office and told me he's not impressed, I am incompetent, I have no follow through and he cannot trust anything I say. I can tell you I cannot stand my job, though I am professional and curteous and don't 'show' that I don't like it there. I was hired as an exec admin and am doing work as a receptionist. I know that he is the only one who feels this, as otherwise, why am I constantly given projects with tight deadlines to finish by everyone else? I have heard nothing but praise from everyone--except him. I know that he never wanted to hire me, he wanted to hire back my predecessor (a personal friend of his). I AM looking for a different job as I cannot stay there. But anything I say at this point he will construe as 'having attitude'. HELP!
2007-03-16 02:28:43 · 6 answers · asked by Jen-Jen 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Example: He walked down to Sam's office (lights off, no lap top inside) yesterday and he asked if Sam had left for the day. I did not see Sam walk out, so I had no idea. I told him "I did not see Sam walk out"...which is the truth, I was cleaning the kitchen, making copies, etc... and there is another door Sam can walk out of that I wouldn't see. He throws up his hands and just makes that little 'tsk' noise with a big sigh. I didn't do anything wrong or amiss!
2007-03-16 02:32:31 · update #1
I am still working there because i need a paycheck and insurance for my kids...they're paying me $35k to answer their phone, make their coffee, get the mail and clean the kitchen...and I hate it. I wasn't hired for this.....
2007-03-16 02:54:32 · update #2
they're paying that because no one else wants to do it.
2007-03-16 02:54:51 · update #3
some people are jerks, and he is a big one. seems he is just looking for ways to make you quit when he could fire you for anything really. its good you are looking for a job. for one, who needs this kind of stress daily? for another, you are working well below your skill level just to have an income. put your resume' on monster.com ........they will hook you up in no time. if you they find something for you and they will. go to the interview and continue to work and when you get hired......just up and quit this job without notice. who cares about them. there are lots of jobs for your background and besides, you never have to list this place on your resume' if you leave them like that. besides, he would probably give you a bad recommendation anyway. so just up and quit on them when you find something else. nobody has to know you ever worked there. i hope that makes you feel better and dont worry, you will have another job based on your experience and education soon instead of having to be a receptionist doing administration work for receptionist pay. stop cutting yourself short. and get on monster ASAP! and get the hell outta there.
2007-03-16 02:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by hammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I know this is a hard situation for you but there is hope. First I would begin by creating a list of everything you do. Not the domestic tasks but the other ones (answer phones, greet customers, etc.). I would then read over it again and again to make sure you are not leaving anything out. Your next step is to formally schedule a time to meet with the owner. I would suggest you not give too much information as to why you want to meet except to say something like "well, I listened to what you said about my job performance and I want to talk to you about how I can better serve you and the company".
Leave it at that until the meeting. During the meeting be open and honest in telling him what it is that you would like. Specifically, tell him that you want to make sure you are doing what is needed so that he is pleased with your performance. Then go item by item down the list and ask what if anything you can do to improve in these areas. Try to move relatively quickly because as a biz owner he does not have much time for things like this and he surely won't appreciate doing this-- but if he is interested in having you improve (rather than taking out a grudge on you) he will do it.
Now understand that he can refuse to meet with you or complain that he is too busy to meet. In either of these situations you are going to have to be creative and say something like "well when you have the time I am ready to meet with you so that you tell me how to do things to your satisfaction".
Your next recourse is HR. Hopefully your company has an objective one. If so, talk to your HR person and say that you were informed that your performance was not meeting the needs of "Mr. Owner". Ask the HR person to intervene on your behalf so that you "can make sure your performance is satisfactory to "Mr. Owner"". Then tell the HR person that you attempted to schedule a meeting but was unsuccessful.
Good luck with this and I hope you get the support you need. I would also suggest you join the Job Support Group on Yahoo! Groups for more help and support. Best wishes with this!
2007-03-16 10:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Quiana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't please everyone the best you can do is to try your darnedest. Have you tried turning the situation around. What I mean is when he tells you he doesn't like what you do, calmly and sincerely ask him to suggest how you could do it better, ask him if he could recommend a course for you to take. Chances are that he just hasn't been able to make the adjustment from your predecessor and he keeps comparing you the him /her. I think you are wise in searching for a happier work place, you spend a lot of time at work, you have to be happy doing what you do. I hope when you eventually resign, that you are tactful, but have the guts to say that that you never felt that this guy was satisfied with your work and that you can't work in such a negative environment.
2007-03-16 09:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boss is out to get you and it looks like at this point he will do anything to get rid of you. Try to stay away from him as much as possible which sounds like a hard thing to do. Don't let what he says or does make you feel any less of a person some people are crazy and there is nothing you can do about it. Do your job to the best of your ability and ignore him.
Keep your outside job search as active as possible.
Best wishes on getting the heck out of there.
2007-03-16 13:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out.......get a job you like..... ASAP. And OH, by the way, when people "constantly give you projects with tight deadlines to be finished" its not because they don't "think of you like your boss", they are 'using' you. They do not respect you and they know that they can dump on you whatever they do not want to do themselves. You'll do it, and even do a good job on it...and they don't have to ( they will also get and take credit for it). Imagine that! You must be new to the professional/job world. Trust me, all new people who are good at what they are doing and lack self confidence and feel they have to prove themselves, go through this. Learn the lesson now....then you won't have to repeat it wherever you go....cuz' this will be the way it is wherever you go. This is life among humans. Respect is earned , that's true. But after you have shown you have excellent ability.....respect has to be expected and demanded. You'll learn that it will not make people dislike you (which is why most people continue to let this happen). Everybody is not going to like you anyway. But you have to like yourself..and when you let youself be used, it tells people that they don't have to respect you. And make up your mind that people HAVE to. And they will.
2007-03-16 10:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is the one signing the pay check. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, it is his opinion that matters.
He doesn't like your performance and you don't like the job. So, why are you there?
2007-03-16 09:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋