For those of you who have lost loved ones?

Question

If they could come back for just one day, what would you want to do with them?

I've lost many people dear to me. My Mum died almost 19 years ago and every Mother's day is hard, I often wondered what we could do together if she could come and visit for the day, she's missed out on so much. I'm expecting my first baby and really miss her.

Answer 1

awww my heart does go out to you. my son died in augest 2005, on his birthday it really is hard coz he would of been 3. i have once thought i wish he would come back just for the day so i can tell him how much i love him and miss him, and tickle his belly, if my son come back for just one day i wolud love to hug him so much. but we cant and it is really up setting we just have to think to our selfs that they are with us all the time in our hearts x

Answer 2

This is not an easy question to answer consider I lost both of my grandparents within one month 4 months ago. My grandfather went blind and only saw one out of 4 grandkids. They lived in Canada and we live in Virginia so it was really hard to see them. But what I would do is spend the time with them that I was not able too and let my grandfather see my kids. I would hug them and kiss them and let them know how much they mean to us. They loved baseball and for the past 10 years my grandfather has been unable to watch a game so I would take them to a baseball game as well. Honestly it would not matter what we did as long as we were all together

Answer 3

I have often thought of this question myself. What would I do or tell my mom if she was brought back to life for one day? What kind of things would we do together?

I have come to the conclusion that I don't think I would honestly want her to come back to life for just one day. The mental agony that would follow would be too much to bare. She was a fantastic mother, and a great friend, and I'm honestly not sure if I could mentally handle losing her again.

I came to a conclusion a while ago, that instead of thinking about what I would do with her, I would do things to honor her on a daily/weekly basis. My mom loved live music, so I go out to see unknown bands, or musicals at local high schools.

Answer 4

If I could have my Mom back for just one day I would verbalize how much I love and admire her. I am sure she KNEW I loved her, but I wish I had expressed it better when she was here....
She always put her family first and sacrificed many of her own dreams and hopes for us. I want to see her smile again,
her whole face would light up, and her eyes crinkled at the corners..... Everyone, Please take a moment now and tell the people you care the most for how you really feel! You never know what might happen tommorrow. I didn't have a chance to say these things, and after 2 years it still haunts me.

Answer 5

My mum and I would spend the day in the garden. We would potter about unless she decided to do some digging! We would marvel at the flowers and the birdsong, at how warm the sun was and how blue the sky. We would sit by the pond and watch the fish, and have cups of tea with the cat snoozing in the shade under the table. We'd make some plans for summer bedding. I would forbid bright pink and she would pull that funny face she always did when we disagreed on something trivial. She would say "I'll just tidy that bed over there. You sit and read your book and leave me to it." And that's how it would be.

Answer 6

I'm soooo sorry. I lost my dad 6yrs ago. I lost alot of time with him cos we didnt speak for 20 yrs and i only had 8yrs before he died. If i had him with me today, i'd ask him about when he was a boy. I sit and hold his hand, cos he didnt get alot of love when he was a child. What i'd like to say to you is, you're mum is around you all the time everyday watching and loving you. As i know my dad is with me. We may not be able to see them but take comfort in knowing that they're with you. Good luck with you're new baby.

Answer 7

The assumption being that one day would be worth the grief that would follow. Would prefer to remember my loved ones fondly than to have them show up and muddle with my psychological and emotional welfare. Life is not a movie it's real and I cannot think of much more painful than losing someone I truly love twice.
Why would you want to put yourself through such incredible emotional trauma? Of course, I am confident that I said I love you and lived a full life with my loved one before they died there are no unresolved issues.

Answer 8

i lost my best friend and cousin 2 years ago, she was a very young 42 and passed away from diabetes.............there isn't a day that goes by that I do not feel the loss in my life and the changes it has made in me............i would like, for just one day to spend 12 hours of it as we were as children, playing and then as young teens drinking coffee and playing King's Corner til after midnight and then 12 hours as adults, laughing, drinking at times, and singing the theme songs to the shows we grew up with as kids........

Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale, a tale of a fateful trip.............. ;)

Answer 9

Tell my mum how much I love and miss her terribly, after 10 years. I'll be thinking of her especially this Sunday (Mothering Sunday in the UK).

Answer 10

I would love my grandad to come back - but be the grandad before the cancer took over - then I would just have an all day long hug and laugh with him while eating jelly tots.