We are a group of 4 coworkers who are big on gifts at birthdays and Christmas. One girl has been ungracious about it, telling us she throws our gifts in a closet and forgets about them, giving them to other people, and giving our giftcards to her husband to use. We would like to change things so the other 3 of us give to each other only, leaving her out, and conducting gift giving away from work. Is this a good plan?
2007-03-16 02:04:40 · 9 answers · asked by danashelchan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow, what's her problem!?
I think it's a great idea to limit the gift giving to the three of you, and do it outside of work. It will be more enjoyable for you and you won't waste your time and money shopping for a gift that this girl won't appreciate.
Just tell your ungracious co-worker that you've decided to stop doing gifts at work, so she won't expect anything next time her birthday or christmas comes around.
2007-03-16 02:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by dream_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not leave her out, but would instead give her a very inexpensive gift - like a 5$ coupon to a fast food joint, or something along those lines. Or, you could slowly begin moving the event away from work and just look like you give each other candy or cards for your birthdays/Christmas and nothing else.
2007-03-16 09:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by MBE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe the reason that she is like that is maybe that something is going on out side of work that is causing her to be this way. i think that maybe instead of getting her a gift you and your co workers could get together and get her a nice card or if you are really feeling generous maybe take her out to lunch maybe she would change her outlook because even after all those things that she said you guys still got her something . . . . or maybe she just doesn't celebrate Christmas or birthdays and that is why she is that way during those times of the year
2007-03-16 10:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by MECD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if she is that outwardly ungateful about the gift giving process, then yes, you and your two friends should get together after work one evening, have a good time--coffee or drinks or something...and exchange gifts with just the three of you. I don't blame you. I wouldn't want to include her either.
Happy Gift Giving!
2007-03-16 09:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your coworker has been rude enough to tell you these things about your gifts I think that It is completely appropriate for you to leave her out. In fact she has been so rude that I would let her know that you are now excluding her since your gifts are not good enough for her. People like her deserve to get a dose of their own medicine.
2007-03-16 09:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she isn't interested so I would explain that since she is not into the gift giving you have decided to make it easier on everybody and leave her out.
2007-03-16 09:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is so bold to tell you your gifts are sitting in her closet. Don't give her anything anymore. If she complains, just tell her you are helping her eliminate the clutter in her closet!
2007-03-16 09:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her up front that since she obviously dont enjoy it like ya'll do that you are not going to include her this time, see what her reaction is. do it in a nice manner not confrontational or anything, just make it sound like a reasonable plan, which I think it is.
2007-03-16 09:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by just me #1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave her out. she apparently is unappreciative, so it shouldn't hurt her feelings...and if it does, let her get a taste of her own medicine.
2007-03-16 09:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋