I have been with my husband for 4 years now and we have a 3 month old little girl. He is 10 years older than me and has 2 kids from a previous marriage. The past year or so he has been doing some questionable things such as using a certain sex toy that "he bought for me" on himself while we are having sex, he sometimes likes to wear my panties all day (he says they are comfortable), and not that I am complaining but he has never seemed to check out other women...am I just over reacting or should I worry?
2007-03-16 01:53:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some guys like booty play. More would if they would get over the homophobia and try it. My wife and I both have our toys. The male prostate is VERY sensitive, similar to a woman's G-spot. When stimulated with a toy or a finger or whatever, the orgasms are incredibly intense.
We have also played dress up. When I wear her lingerie she knows I want her to take a more aggressive role and be dominant in our love making.
Talk to him. Don't ask him if he's gay. He's probably exploring different aspects of his sexuality. Find out what he's looking for and what he wants to try. As long as a third party isn't involved, play along. Remember, you need to keep things lively in the bedroom. If you're uncomfortable, tell him. Talk to each other and work with each other. But don't be afraid of 'taboos'. No one has to know what goes in your bedroom except you.
2007-03-16 02:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by bugs280 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The part about you not seeing him check out other women could be a case of him not wanting to get yelled at. However,
sounds like Paris is Burning! Wearing your panties? Using a sex toy designed for a woman? Sounds VERY strange!
Another good sign would be if he bought you a strap-on and wanted you to use it on him! I was think that would leave no doubt that he's a butt-hole surfer.
2007-03-16 09:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
... interesting. I say ask him. If you want to know what he's thinking then ask him. I know you're afraid to, because you are afraid of knowing. But the not knowing is causing you a little stress, I'm sure. If he isn't, then ... shew! You two can laugh about it, and enjoy his "wildness." If he is, then at least you know, and the two of you can get into counseling and work on this (maybe he could live with bisexual that only sleeps with his wife, but does the crazy other things. Plus you can play the male role some for him).
I say ask, learn, re-figure, adjust, and love really hard!!
2007-03-16 09:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might not be gay or bi, but be a cross-dresser with a low sex drive.
4 signs a guy might be gay, subtle ones. He seems to be flirtatious when conversing with men. He is especially interested in the way other men dress. His eyes follow men as they walk across a space. He makes direct, prolonged eye contact with men while conversing. Straight men do not make prolonged eye contact with other men, but they do with women.
Think it over.
2007-03-16 09:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say not gay - he just sounds a little kinky to me. Sounds like he wants to spice things up in the bedroom. It's fine that he doesn't check out other women - that just means he respects you - not ALL men leer at other women.
2007-03-16 09:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know many men who are afraid to confront their own feelings and accept that they are gay. I think that is BS that he is wearing your panties and using your toys, sooner or later is will be coming out of the closet, it up to you if you want to stay with him or not... I wouldn't.
2007-03-16 10:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a possible mid-life thing. If everything else in your marriage is good, why look for something? Seriously...
2007-03-16 09:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront him.maybe I should say ask him maybe he likes those things but maybe he'd like them with you.To each his own.If these things turn you off then there will be a problem but right now I'd say if you have to ask then it's probably true.
2007-03-16 10:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe isn't gay, but is struggling with something. Have you talked to him about it. A red flag is a red flag, I mean trust your gut.
2007-03-16 09:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound's like he is bi-sexual.Any man that want's to wear womens underwear has some very deep issues I suggest you get him into couseling ASAP.Good Luck to you.
2007-03-16 09:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋