My marriage is going downhill by the minute and I need ideas on how to make it survive. I really need this marriage to work because we have a 6 month old and we have one on the way.
2007-03-16 01:19:32 · 12 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He says that I get mad/upset too easily and I say that he is not serious enough.
2007-03-16 02:48:38 · update #1
Well, it can't be SO bad if the two of you are still making babies! Sheesh! Just be mature, remember you are a married woman and a mom, and do everything you can to keep things on an even keel, and work towards happy. Sometimes it's all in the attitude; you can change your own, and put your best foot forward - maybe it will inspire him to do the same.
2007-03-16 01:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What seems to be wrong? All mariages change eventually. I have been married to my second wife for 6 months now, we also have a 6 month old baby. We had some issues also along the way. It seems like we seem to get comfortable with eachother and tend to not spark a flame. What we try to do is keep it in mind that we liked the way things were before we ever got married. I have a great expression I live by. "Never stop dating your spouse". I would like to hear more about what is going on so that maybe I can help even better. My first marriage did not work because there was no communication on feelings. Let me know how it works out. Another thing is it seems like someone is losing interest.
2007-03-16 01:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont know exactly what the problem in your marriage is as you are not very descriptive.
But there are ways to fix it..or give it an other change.
You should organise someone to babysit your baby..and plan a whole day for you and your hubby.or maybe 2 days.
just so that you enjoy time together..alone...
do whatever you want...whatever the two of you enjoy doing...or maybe one day take him somewhere where you want to go..or make him do something that you want to do and do it together..and the next day do something he likes.
it will bring you closer together and remind you why you 2 fell in love.
you 2 should plan to have alone time atleast once a week. it is necessary as you both need a break from the "real" world every now and then.
2007-03-16 01:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to sit down together and talk. Don't yell or accuse him or yourself of causing your relationship to spiral downhill. Just listen to one another, discuss what the issues are and how they can be resolved.
If he is the problem, he must be made aware of becoming financially supportive to his children. If you are the problem, than you have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself "what can I do to make our marriage work?" Both of you must make changes in order to make it work. You must be open and truthful with one another. Both of you can do it on your own, if you're willing to work on it together. Good luck!
2007-03-16 02:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by midnyt12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would highly recommend couples therapy. You two will have an objective third person that should be able to help you sort through what's happening, how to stop it, and how to move toward a better future.
Good luck!!
2007-03-16 01:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop arguing with him. Get him involved with the baby, feeding etc. Make him be the man that provides for his family. Have some fun.
2007-03-16 01:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like quite a situation, first i must advise you to take some contraceptives after the baby! and then...i need to know what wrong?
2007-03-16 01:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was goin to say couples that play together stay together, but sound like you had tons of play time!lol, you both need time for each other make that time it is important! and communication is # 1 key. let him know you guys need some cuddle time!good luck
2007-03-16 01:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply solve the problems that you have that you both created. Work together.
If you both are unwilling to work together, It won't last. in that case, divorce. Do your best to take care of your kids.
2007-03-16 01:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him what he will pay in child support and alimony (if you don't work). That will set him straight.
2007-03-16 01:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋