We lost our baby girl a month ago at 14 weeks due to a chromosome abnormality. We were told we had been very unlucky! I am 25 years old my husband is 24, i always believed this was something that happened to older couples! We have had tests to find out if its something in our DNA and are still waiting for results. I have just had my first period since and we want to try again straight away. Should we wait for results or just go ahead? Our results might take another month. Could it be that our DNA is not compatable (as iv just read about in someones question). Our doctor believed it was just bad luck but i wanted the tests as my auntie also lost a baby to the same chromosome abnormality (trisomy 18). I have a daughter from a previous relationship. Has anybody been through the same thing or got any answers please.
2007-03-16 01:19:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have had 2 beautiful baby girls, and 2 different babies with chromosome problems. (trisomy 22 and trisomy 9).
My doctor said it is just a case of bad luck. The eggs, by chance, just split wrong in the first seperation. He says that anyone can have this happen. We are just the unfortunate ones who have to suffer. But....we are still trying to conceive our third child regardless. You only have a less than 1% chance of having it happen again... I am 37 yrs old, so I have a slightly higher chance, but I won't give up. We will get a cvs at 12 weeks, if we are ever blessed to be pregnant again, so we will know what to expect early. God Bless, and don't give up hope..... We were told with a trisomy, there was no need to check our dna, but we did have the choice to, but declined. Life is full of chances, and I refuse to give up!!!!
2007-03-16 01:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by hleona2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your first child. You should definitely wait for the test results... Think of the agony you could put yourselves through if there is a genetic issue preventing you two from having child. All of your questions about your DNA, whether you are a carrier or if the first time was an isolated incident, will by answered when you receive the results of your genetic testing. Hang it out until the results are back. Good luck and best wishes!!! Here is a website that might give you some info:
2007-03-16 08:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by sapphirafire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. It's a lottery, literally.
I have a friend and her husband. They went through failed after failed pregnancies, even with IVF. After a few tries at it, they started doing PGD, which is basically testing the embryos they created by IVF at day 3 after fertilzation. They tested something like half a dozen chromosomes that had highest tendencies to be abnormal and found that 75% out of their 14-18 embryos typically had horrendous abnormalities. They saw triple or quadruple chromosomes and some embryos had multiple chromosomal defects. No wonder they couldn't get a viable pregancy. They were playing with really bad odds. With PGD, though, they were able to return only the healthy ones back to the mom. They put back one boy embryo and one girl embryo and ended up with an adorable, healthy baby boy. They did this again and had a healthy baby girl.
So yes, you can get pregnant with healthy babies. It's playing the odds. Unfortunately, you don't really know whether and how badly the deck is stacked against you and your husband unless you go through an expensive process. You may get lucky and work the next pregnancy, or you may be waiting for a while, with each failure taking its tremendous emotional toll on you and your husband. I don't have advice for you on how best to proceed. It must be a decision with you and your husband. I can only offer you the story that I know that it is possible to give you some hope. I hope that your next pregnancy is the one that flourishes. Good luck.
2007-03-16 13:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious genetic problem, wait to find out so you can discuss the tests and the actions and alternatives, you already know it has happened to you and another relative, I think this one can be detected before birth so you have some serious thinking to do. Not just if you should try again, but if you should and the baby should prove to have it what are you going to do. If its at all possible discuss your plans with a specialist in this area.
2007-03-16 08:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a baby that was stillborn due to a chromosomal abnormality. They went through some genetic counselling to find out if it may happen again. Since then, they have had two healthy children and no further problems.
2007-03-16 10:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by mandylmit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear this, my sincerest condolences to you and your husband. I have never heard of this before but i do think you should wait on the results, just to make sure this has nothing to do with DNA. One month again is not so long besides you should give your body a little rest before you go through another pregnancy. I wish you all the best.
2007-03-16 09:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by redz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I turned 21 I had a blood test done to see if I myotonic dystrophy, a form of muscular dystrophy, too many repeats of chromosome 19, mothers have 50/50 chance to pass disease too offspring in more severe form. Two of my sisters did pass on the disease to their children and as a result both of the children spent over 11 months in the hospital after birth. Doctors have informed them that children born with congential myotonic dystrophy (at birth) normally only live to their teen years.
After researching this information for years, and knowing that I didn't want to pass on this disease to my children, my husband and I contacted a genetic counselor. She informed us about preimplantionn genetic diagnosis. We contacted a center that can actually test our eggs after they are fertilized and if they are healthy, they are transfered back into the uterus.
We went through IVF and after a month the doctors were able to retrieve 18 eggs. Out of all of them, only two were healthy and were transfered back into me. I am now about 5 weeks pregnant and show far everything looks okay. I may also be having twins, will find out for sure in 2 weeks. I know it is early in my pregnancy but I am also young and the chances of concieving through IVF when you are young increases your chance of having a child.
It is best to wait and find out what you or your husband carry. Research the disorder a lot and consider looking into PGD (preimpalntion genteitic diagnosis) RGI (reproductive genetics institute) and IVF (in vitro fertilization) I hope this helps and wish you and your husband a healthy baby/family.
2007-03-16 10:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by elles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually, chromosomal abnormalaties are like the lottery. It happens sometimes but is not normal to happen again.
2007-03-16 09:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is genetic
2007-03-16 15:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweettnpea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋