What is this behavior...is there a name?

Question

I was married for 15 years, divorced now for 12 years. We have 3 children. My marriage was horrible, she would accuse me of the most horrible things that were not even close to being true, adultry, abuse and everything else, including members of my family. She has an incrediable explosive temper and goes for the throat every time. She would always say she wanted a divorce over everything. She would say girls came to our house during the day and said they were having an affair with me and then to say she forgave me...always testing me. She left me and married the next door neighbor 3 days after our divorce. I went through countless court battles, IRS, allegations of abuse, I won nearly all of them. She insisted our children call her husband daddy and me by my first name. Her husband believed I was coming on to her (she told him that) and he kept telling me to stay away from her. He died of a heart attack at 40 years old. She now accuses his family of trying to steal from her.

We have a 12 year old between us and I pay her child-support. She insist to come out to my car and speak to me and tell me how everyone is doing her wrong..I just listen and get my son and try to keep conversation as little as possible. I concern is my son. She does not work, she has tried my times to work but is fired with 3-4 weeks. Right now her only income is my child-support. MY HEAD HURTS...what is wrong with this woman. Why does she insist on the hard road everytime. Our 22 year old has nothing to do with her...and my x-wife say's she is a drug user and a lesbian..it's crazy.

Is there a name for this???

I know the obvious answer to stay far away as possible and I do, we have a 12 year yet to finish raising, he loves his mother and believes everything she say's....that's hard to say the least. I stay 100% consistent with him. My oldest daughter now blames me for allowing her to live with her. She say's "Dad you knew Mom was ill and you did nothing", I asked them both if they ever wanted to live with me you could...they always said no...they wanted their mother...what could I do? They remember that...my hands were tied.

Wizzard...interesting you should say that. I was always very loving with her, I have never been violent or aggressive...her 2nd husband was for a lack of a better word a "redneck" who did have made physical encounters with her. She accused me of abuse but swore he was an angel...the children say different

Answer 1

"My hands were tied" is the cry of a parent who has abdicated his authority. Your daughter went through what your son is going through, and now with the clarity of hindsight, she sees that staying with her mother was a bad idea. As a child, she didn't realize it, but now she does. Sometimes as an adult, we must make decisions for our children, deciding what is good for them whether they like it or not. Your hands are not tied.

If it was freezing outside and your son was going out wearing shorts and a t-shirt, would you say, "That's his choice, my hands are tied."? No, you would stop him and make him do what's good for him. It is no different here. You can clearly see that his mother is a bad influence, as harmful to him emotionally as freezing temperatures would be to him physically. Help your son!

Get physical custody. Do the harder right instead of the easier wrong.

Answer 2

I would guess at a couple of things like manic depressive, or bi-polar, she definelty needs some professional help and maybe even some medication the balance her out... it sounds dangerous for your son and you should probably seek custody of him because if her husband has died and the boy is the only one home then he is the one that is going to take the abuse since there is no one else for her to explode on, maybe you can talk to your son and see if he has experienced any abuse and if so take him to a social worker or the police department.

Answer 3

Sounds like Either:

Pathological Liar Or

Pathological Liar mixed with Borderline Personality or Sociopathic or Psychopathic, a bit.

Answer 4

Well, it could be a number of things, but since I guess you want answerers to play psychiatrist I'm going to vote Borderline Personality Disorder. It's really just a personality disorder all about attention seeking and not getting over the moody teenage girl phase.

I'd call her bipolar, but you don't talk about bipolar symptoms and I wouldn't want to be rude to people who actually have bipolar disorder. It's not nearly as bad as the personality disorder.

Truthfully, we could call it immaturity, paranoia and out right stupidity.

Answer 5

Her behavior may be bipolar or worse. It is, at the very least, bizarre. You cannot solve this woman's problems, but you can be the best father possible to your children. It doesn't sound like she is able to nourish or guide them in any true direction when she is clearly off track. Be kind, be merciful,but keep your distance. She needs counseling and/or medication and your prayers.

Answer 6

Woman of this type need a strong and aggressive husband, not one who sees reason, but one who slaps first and sees reason later. Had u done this in the first instance, that is just after marriage, she would have been tamed and domiciled. She appears still wild and unchannelled. Now, it is too late, there is no man to tame her and show her, her righful place.

Answer 7

It sounds like your ex is very angry about something that probably has nothing to do with you. I don't know the rest of your story, but check out this website to see if this is a fit...
http://tearsandhealing.com/narcissistic-personality-disorder6.htm?utm_content=6whatis-ishe-notcrazy-LrnDis-stopAb&gclid=CN2tm_Oi-YoCFQc1gQodBglLlQ
Good luck with that.

Answer 8

bipolar
get a good lawyer and get custody of your son before something happens to him!
i'm serious!!!

Answer 9

i call that a two -faced drama queen, stay away as much as possible!

Answer 10

you already said it CRAZY. attention getter,drama queen,