I feel like a major part of my dating dilemma is that I am honest when I tell people I am not interested in having children. I didn't realize that so many men want to start families. I am also one of the only women I know who does not want to have children. I feel like I am abnormal... anybody here feel that way?
2007-03-16 01:00:26 · 14 answers · asked by ppaper.wingss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing odd about it. It's smart that you realize what you want and what you don't want. There is nothing worse than to bring an unwanted child into the world and there are plenty of women who feel the same as you. Just because you don't know any doesn't mean that they aren't out there. So don't let yourself think that you are abnormal and never cave into social pressure. Just be up front about it but don't feel you need to apologize for what you believe and what you know is right for you.
2007-03-16 01:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not alone. Imagine all the pain you need to go through during pregnancy. The pain during labour and the recover after labour. And the long 24 months to baby sit a monster. Then all the education to come, worries about meeting bad friends, not finding the right partner, the problem goes on and on and on.
I could only think of 1 reason to have children. And it is you will have a family (or at least a person) to talk to when you are old. But is it worlth it?
2007-03-16 01:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Had enough 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want children either, I sometimes think its strange as all my friends want them and its all they talk about and my family are always asking when we are going to have them and they always say i'll change my mind but i wont. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and at first he said he wanted children but since friends of ours have had them it has completely put him off too and neither of us ever want any. If a guy loves you then it shouldnt matter that you dont want children, many of them will be relieved! Many of the guys i know didnt want them but didnt get much say in the matter,
2007-03-16 01:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't, but I know plenty of people who do including my best friend. She doesn't want children ever, it just doesn't fit who she is. I may have kids but I wouldn't wish them on anyone who doesn't want kids.
Yes, you will find that there are men who want children and families, but I think you will find that men who really fit you personally will not want children. Or they will already have had their children.
My step mother was the kind of woman who never wanted children and it was kind of her to welcome me into her life. I always appreciated her acceptance but recognized that I was as close as she was ever going to get to being a mom, she wasn't the type of woman who wanted kids and I am glad that she didn't have them. She wouldn't have enjoyed it! A great person, but she wasn't meant to be a mom.
You will find the right man for you, and he will not want kids either.
Nothing odd at all about it.
2007-03-16 01:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Chali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had to convince me to have kids - we now have two boys. I love them SO MUCH, but if he hadn't pushed the issue, we probably wouldn't have had kids. I don't think it's abnormal at all. I noticed what you wrote to the guy who was asking about help for his wife That could be part of it, because you and I have that in common. Anyway, don't feel abnormal - if you feel fulfilled in your life as it stands, good for you! Good luck.
2007-03-16 02:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready yet is the only true answer. when yyou meet the right person you will know to have children and you will learn things at an exponential rate to keep up and keep track of your children. in other words, you will become mother. and depending on wheather you're a slacker or a go-getter you should be able to keep your skool gurl figure too. ta ta.
2007-03-16 01:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by lillylickr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are normal. You know what you want in life and good for you, so many women have children and they get neglected when they realize it is a difficult job. Don't bring the subject up and if the guy does. say it like it is. Its your prerogative.
2007-03-16 01:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dsidnt want kids or marriage until i met my husband now i have both I love my daughter to pieces but no if you want a career then go for it
2007-03-16 01:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by charlene M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's abnormal. If your parents had the same kind of feeling, I wouldn't know what would have become of you.
2007-03-16 01:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by comradechris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you'll have to find a guy that feels the same
most guys want kids
if you dont, then be honest-- its good you have been honest!
2007-03-16 01:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋