I have friend that I have known for about 6 months and we have turned into close best friends.The problem is I like this girl a lot & there’s a bit of age gap. I have tried not seeing her for a while and went back to being friend’s and realized it didn’t help. She knows how I feel as we have talked this over but she only sees me as a friend so she tells me.
The problem is I think I have fallen in love with her and I’m fed up with how I am feeling. When I am out with friends I sometimes feel awarked or jealous and got angry with one of my friend trying to kiss her. I have thought about cutting her out of my life but I can see this hurting her and will cause some problems with my other friend’s but at the same time I don’t want to lose her as a friend!
I could do with some advice on the above?
2007-03-16 00:56:36 · 7 answers · asked by Jono 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks for the offer Jane.Just thought I would add that she doesn't know that i have fallen in love with her.I had a good night out with her on Friday. On Saturday i didn't speak to her much as i was feeling awarked again.I may just ask for some time apart even though I don't want to as someone suggested.
2007-03-19 00:14:13 · update #1
I would explain the problem you are having with her, even though she knows how you feel about her maybe she is not aware of how intense your feelings are for her ( LOVE is a big word) Maybe it would do you both good to spend a good amount of time apart, of course you need to make yourself clear on your intentions and not make her feel like it is her fault and she has done something wrong... and if she is leading you on because she likes the extra attention you give her then you should tell her that if she doesn't have romantic feelings for you then she really shouldn't send mixed messages.... I think most importantly you should tell her the same way you are telling yahoo answers...
2007-03-16 01:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me you should not stop being her friend...She seems really nice and all but you don't need to do that..Yeah i know its hard see other people all over her....and the age should not matter at all...Well that happened to me but the other why a round...But know I'm actually dating this guy..It might take a while for her to see how great of a person you and how great you will treat her...Or just maybe she is just scared to date her best friend and something terrible might happen if thing don't work out right and that she might be scared too that she might lose you as a friend.
2007-03-16 02:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears you have some jealousy problems which is starting to get out of control. There is nothing wrong with still having that person as your friend. As far as wanting a relationship with the person I would wait the time and do some self reflection on why you have let this jealousy spiral out of control. Also, why are you trying to control the situation. I understand your feelings and all, but sometimes feelings can really cloud the situation.
2007-03-16 01:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Don't Know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I faced the same situation the previous summer. I had a friend who had feelings for me and for me was just a friend. I knew his feelings about me but we had discussed the matter and I thought that we solved it. It was so stupid of me to think that we ended the matter on "friendly basis". I made the mistake and accepted his invitation to stay in his house during my summer vacation. Everything was going just fine until a friend of his showed me his interest. He got jealous even when we talked and do u know what happened??? This so called "friend" who supposed having feelings for me asked me to terminate my vacation and leave his house as soon as possible. In other words he kicked me out forgetting the rules of hospitality.
I do not blame him but his behaviour was unacceptable. We never talked again, he offended me, I lost a friend and left me with the worst impressions.
So, based on my experience I will recommend (not advise you) this: If u are feeling that your emotions are getting out of control by being jealous or offensive or anything else, end this relationship. U will hurt her less if you explain the situation and leave with your head held high instead of doing something and show her a bad side of your character.
Good luck
2007-03-16 01:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by C.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take a friendship and turn it into a LOVING relationship (sex,etc. etc.) It ruins the complete friendship. I tried being in a relationship with my freind and after a couple of months the sh** went sour. Careful what you ask for, that all Im saying. Things might seem sweet now but a relationship will change things for SURE.
2007-03-16 01:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sincere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, so similar to my story but i don't know if the boy in mine feels thesame way.
maybe she dose like you,
i mean i have a friend and we both like eachother but we don't go out, and we know that we do.
maybe its thesame with you.
if you need someone to loose your temper on, contack me, or i could talk to you more if you need any healp with her
2007-03-16 01:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋