i ended up with 7 stitches this was becouse i saw my abuser in town after 25 years he even smiled at me wot do i do next please help
2007-03-16 00:53:33 · 5 answers · asked by Ricky S 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
oh honey! I'm sorry that this happened to you! I understand, I really do!! Did you hurt yourself in attempts to end your life or was it a self-mutilation injury because of the stress of seeing him again? I've done both. This is all i can say to you. Don't let him ever get into your head like that again. Have you gotten any counseling in the past? Even if you have, you may need to start up again. Your subconcious brought up the past rather strongly and your conscious didn't know how to handle that. So you needed to lash out in some way to release your deep fear and anger toward him. Instead of doing it in a healthy way, you did it in an unhealhty way and cut yourself. You need to go to counseling to learn how to handle this stress in a healthy way. If he shows up again, you can call a friend right away. Or drive somewhere that you feel safe and talk with someone. Or does your city have a safe house for abused women that you can go to for the night? These are just a few ideas I have right now.
Whether he knows that you did this to yourself, you are still letting him have some control over you. Don't give him that control! He isn't worth it! He isn't worth anything! He is crap! He is an animal, an abuser and an evil person. Focus on yourself. When you see him, or even just think about him, focus on yourself. You are worth your time and your attention and your own love and care. Give him nothing! He is slime!
I use to be a self-mutilator for years. I've learned over time that when I have these urges, I tear paper, or I take colored pencils and scribble my feelings. Sometimes my scribbles end up as pretty pictures because half way thru I calm down and begin to draw. Or instead of cutting, I get on my hands and knees and scrub the kitchen floor. I scrub hard at first and cry and slowly start to calm down and then when I'm down I feel better. And I have a clean floor. lol I hope I've helped some with these suggestions. When you want to cut, just look at your scars and remember how you felt while you made those scars. You don't want more scars. Your body is beautiful. Don't harm it anymore. Harm a pillow, a stuffed animal, a banana, paper. Something besides yourself. I read a story from a lady that was molested during her entire childhood. She would slowly cut bananas with the peels on when she was angry at the molestor and pretend the banana was his penis. This helped her stop slicing her legs. Women that have been abused have deep, deep emotional scars and honestly they will never leave us entirely. But thru time they will become lighter and will stop controlling us with fear. Our emotions are okay to have because they ARE OUR emotions. Emotions help us know that we are alive. We just need to deal with them in a healthy way. And no longer let the abuser have control over our emotions because they aren't worthy. If you would ever like to talk, feel free to email me. orchidmg@yahoo.com I check my emails a few times a day. Take care and I will pray for you and your healing! God bless! Your Friend in WI
2007-03-16 01:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting them get to you? You know that is what they want, so stop it. You are in charge of your life now and you are not the victim that you once were.
It is over, it is done, and it isn't going to happen to you again.
Yeah he is going to be around and he is going to smile at you, he still sees you as the victim he controlled.
You are not his victim anymore. He doesn't exist for you, he doesn't need to. You don't need to interact with him. If you see him, ignore him. He is less than dirt to you. He is nothing.
Don't you dare let him get at you again by hurting yourself, don't even think of it.
You are better than that and you know it. Deep down you know that you are better than he ever was.
After all, you are a beautiful person now and have nothing to prove to him or anyone else.
Love yourself dear, and know that he is nothing anymore.
He is gone, it is over, he is nothing, it is time to move on.
And while you are at it, go find a counselor to talk to so you can let it go and move on, because it is time.
2007-03-16 01:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Chali 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurting yourself is not the answer. I was molested as a child by an uncle. I was seven, he was 14. I saw him at a place I worked at about 2years ago. I smiled and talked with him and acted like it never happened. When I got home I called my best friend and she talked me through my pain. Finding someone you trust or a doctor to talk to really helps. Suicide is not an answer.
2007-03-16 00:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by mechelle68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to find a "3D" person (ie: someone you can talk to in person) you trust.
Was your abuser convicted? Does anyone else know what he did to you?
Cutting isn't a solution, although it may seem to help. You need to find a social worker or psychologist you feel comfortable talking with who can help you with coping strategies and advise you on what options are available regarding this abuser being around.
Please find someone to help you.
Blessings, Gypsy Queen
2007-03-16 00:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy_Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...that's sad... talk to someone, a good friend or a psychologist...
2007-03-16 00:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋