I have booked my abortion for 3 weeeks time and feel really scared and low as when they did my 1st scan they cudnt see anything im 6 and half weeks and can understand why they couldnt, im 17 and have been with my partner for 20 munths and know the abortion is the right thing to do as we can have children later on I jus feel really low as my birthdays 6 days before the abortion and feel lyk i might grow attached?? Has anyone else gone through this or booked the abortion and went on with the pregnancy at a young age??
2007-03-16 00:48:27 · 22 answers · asked by harriboprincessx 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My boyfriend needs this abortion as he is in his 1st year at college doing his A levels and Im planning to go back to college.
2007-03-16 00:56:25 · update #1
I was in a similar position when i was 16, i had an abortion 2 weeks before my 17th birthday... also with my long term boyfriend. It was the best thing i ever did, i know that sounds cruel but i was too young and i wasnt ready so i wouldnt have been a good mother. However whatever is right for you is the path to choose. Im not telling you to go ahead, im saying dont listen to the to$$ers that tell you its a bad idea. Its your body and you need to think about your life.
2007-03-16 02:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah X 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You seem to be very confused over this matter. I would definitely talk to a counselor about your decision, because you sound like you're going to have some regrets once it's done. You'll live with whatever decision you make for the rest of your life, too.
Some women feel no guilt at all over an abortion, while some can't ever let it go. A counselor will help you decide which one you are, and which options you have if you're the latter.
It's your choice, honey, about what you want to do. If you think that abortion is going to mess you up in the head after it's done, you may want to consider adoption. Perhaps a family member would be willing to adopt your baby (or even take temporary guardianship), to allow you to finish school and to have some freedom before college.
Your options don't stop at abortion, though, and from what you're saying, you don't want them to, either.
I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time. I was one year older than you when I had my first baby. I had a tough time deciding, too. I feel that I made the best decision for me, though, by keeping him. He's the most wonderful little boy alive, now.
Not to sway you from your decision if it's made, just make sure that someone can help you realize all of your options.
Good luck, and I hope that you make the best decision.
2007-03-16 01:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hunny I was 17 when I fell pregnant with my baby girl and not having that abortion was the best thing I ever did! You will turn 18 before the baby is born which is even better as you are classed as an adult at 18. Dont do this because your boyfriend needs this, having a baby is not going to stop him from doing anything at all-youre the one who is going to give birth to it if you carry on with pregnancy. Having a baby wont stop you from doing anything either, I went back to college when my baby turned 9months and I got loads of help, you can get grants to pay your childcare costs and the college has been so understanding. This must be your decision-NOT YOUR BOYFRIENDS!!!!! I hope things dont become too hard for you but to me it sounds as though you already are attatched, you even answered my question the other day saying that you were 6 and a half weeks pregnant and you are showing already, If you really didnt want this baby you wouldnt have aknowleged the fact that you were showing already and you wouldnt be telling people that you were pregnant if you didnt want to keep it. Do whats right for you though, dont be pressured by your boyfriend-you are making a little person inside your tummy, how amazing is that!?
Good luck hun! x x x
2007-03-16 04:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Only you can make a decision like this and if you go ahead with it then it is your choice. 17 is such a young age to have a child and you have so much to live for. My cousin is 16 and has a three year old son, yes that is not a typing error. If you want my opinion its to do what feels right. I know that babies are a gift but they are also expensive and a life time commitment. I have been with my partner three years and we are due to get married but if we fell pregnant i would have an abortion because we are both still not ready. i want to be able to provide my child with everything it could ever want and not have to struggle through. I am 20 and still not ready. You are 17, could you cope with the late nights? Don't feel low about this. It is just unfortunate that you are not ready and are so young. Live your life first.
2007-03-16 02:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think you really need to think long and hard about what YOU want, not your boyfriend. You should also seek some professional guidence as this is your baby that you are talking about. You also need to consider when you say "we can always have baby later on" that it is not always the case. You may well have a baby later, but you may also try for a long time with no luck, or have a miscarriage etc. Although I am against abortion, I am not trying to judge you as everyone has their own rights. I just want you to talk to a professional, get all the information you need to enable you to make a well informed decision. (although you know this), please use protection in the future to ensure you, and another baby) do not have to suffer through this again. Good luck
2007-03-16 01:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by soxy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's interesting that you say your boyfriend "needs" this abortion. How ridiculous. What he NEEDS is to take responsibility for his actions.
Please don't let him pressure you into this. I know you are young, but if you don't feel you could take care of the baby, you can always put it up for adoption.
Studies have shown that the emotional and physical effects of abortion are far-reaching. Many, many women fall into depression, and some never get over it. Also, it has been linked to a much higher risk for breast cancer, and can potentially cause enough damage to make you infertile. Do you know what happens in an abortion? They literally tear the baby apart, and they have clinically proven that the baby feels everything, even at the 9 weeks you say you will be when the abortion is scheduled.
Think twice before having an abortion. Go to a crisis pregnancy center. They can help you with other options and give you the information you need.
2007-03-16 01:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Your not being over sensitive its just that if he isnt gettng sex he might need porn more than normal. He could have come to bed for cuddles and such but he might not have thought of it (what we women think as a nice idea doesnt always enter their minds). If he wasnt tired and was horny he would have just come to bed and got up again, maybe waking you to find him in the next room anyway. I know your feeling fragile maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and do some other intimate things such as sharing a bath or massage rather than straight into sex. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck.
2016-03-29 01:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're in such a mess over this. You need to speak to a counsellor at the abortion clinic for guidance, advice and assistance. Please talk to them BEFORE you go ahead with your abortion. No-one on here can judge you - none of us is in your situation and you and your boyfriend need to think long and hard about what the decision and outcome of either an abortion or not having an abortion will have on you both. Take care.
2007-03-16 00:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reminding yourself of why your doing this, You'll thank yourself later but right now you will need to book in for counselling and dont be fooled to think you could get over it on your own. Get all the help and support you can and TALK about it to your partner how your feeling ect
Good luck I really wish you every success for the future!
2007-03-16 03:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Leesa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no one can tell you what to do its your body you have 3 weeks to think long and hard about this ! i was 18 when i had my first and me and my partner were thinking of getting rid of the baby but i didnt but that was the right choice for me ! i do wish sometimes wish things could have been different as i was at uni studying law and i just dont have the time now as im a mum ! but i have my little girl now and me and her dad love her lots and i somtimes feel guilty for even thinking of not wanting her but we were young and silly for getting pregnant if the first place ! i wish you all the best in whatever you decide !!xx
2007-03-16 01:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by maddie xx 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋