my bf and i madly in love with each other but recently we have been arguing over big serious issues about my friends that he doesn't want me to hang around with. he thinks that they are talking about me behind my back and that one of them is trying to steal him from me now i know thats not true but his cousin told him so. He belives his cousin now but cant trust me anymore because he knows that im still with my friends and he says that he only want me to be safe and he's afraid i might get hurt . i love my friends soo much i even spoke to them about this and everything is fine. i know my friends if they have any problems we always talk about it as a group and solve it but i don't know what to do this time i dont want to lose him . i love him so much but if he knows that i'm with him we will never be together and i can't get hurt again i just can't. what do i do can you please help me?
2007-03-16 00:37:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i love my friends soo much i even spoke to them about this and everything is fine....we always talk about it as a group
now i know thats not true but his cousin told him so
Both of you are taking your issues to friends and relatives, but you are doing it separately - you to your friends and he to his cousin.
That does not work, as you have discovered. There are two choices:
- Both of you talk to your friends and his cousin at the same time, everyone present. All facts and suspicions are there for everyone to see.
- You quit taking your issues to your friends and he does not discuss his issues with his cousin.
Your choice.
2007-03-16 00:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem sweetie, my man does not like me to hang around with my friends he likes them and they all get on (now) but they are all a bit naughty if u know what i mean and he thinks i will get a bad name from that.. just tell your boyfriend that you value youre friends and that you cant give them up because he doesn't like them.. he has to accept that you have to be strong! he cant leave you for that, if he did he doesnt love you as much as he says he does. he seems a bit controlling for me! good luck
2007-03-16 00:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is your friends. He has to deal with that fact or move on.
If he doesn't respect your friends, and your want to have them, he's not for you. Sounds like he's controlling, and dismisses your feelings.
His tactic of "Lose your friends, I only care about you, and want you to be safe" sounds like a BS Lie / Manipulation tactic to close you off from your friends.
Since he's telling you Girl X wants him... how does telling you that make you safe? NO, it makes you question her loyalty. Then next girl, then the next, like dominoes falling until it is him, and he is your world, with him in charge, with no one you trust, but him.
Maybe you should drop him, sounds like trouble.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 00:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your madly in love. nice. people in love dont control. people in love dont lack trust in their partners. your boyfriend is doing both. never get rid of your friends because your in love with someone. the boyfriend is insecure. thats his problem. now hes trying to make it your problem. dont let him. figure out why your so madly in love and fix this. i dont think it can be fixed though. people like that most always get worse.
2007-03-16 00:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess he asked you to chose. Well why don't you ask him not to meet his nice cousin and see if he accepts.. If he gets mad tell him thats the way you felt when he asked you not to talk with your friends anymore. Good luck!
2007-03-16 01:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋