I'm friends with a lot of my exes and would have no problem if he stayed friends with his because I trust him yet he seems to have an issue with me having my exes in my life.
2007-03-15 23:56:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is my first and hopefully last marriage.I'm talking about ex- boyfriend's not husbands.
2007-03-16 00:01:57 · update #1
maybe that's just because you have so many of them, exes that is, and it reminds him that he may be the next ex.....
oh okay, in that case, he should just be proud that you picked him to be your husband and not worry about the rest.
2007-03-16 00:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband isn't being controlling. You suggested it your self--a number of those exes were sending you beside the point messages meaning they do no longer respect your relationship with him. he's a sensible guy (your husband). i in my view do no longer stay pleasant w/ exes...particularly no longer at the same time as in a relationship because that's thoroughly disrespectful to the marriage. opposite sex acquaintances may be complicated. Exes... do not have everywhere in a wedding ceremony, IMO, until eventually you've young ones w/ that individual. How do you want in case you rhusband replaced into nevertheless contacting his exes who were sending beside the point issues/message once you first were given at the same time??? answer that and also you'll know how he feels. Be honest. you know you woulodn't like it one bit vecause you know the edx sending the inapprop message has ulterior motives. And by ability of you persevering with contact with those adult men after the very actuality, it shows you do not respect your husband. you'll not in any respect locate a guy who's ok w/ his spouse retaining contactd w/ a former lover who replaced into attempting to scheme on their marriage/relationship.
2016-12-02 02:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll try this one more time.
Do you suppose for a moment that your husband is well aware of a lot(?) of your Ex's and thinks that you might be easily swayed ? Thus having a lot of ex's. Again , maybe he is keeping you from being drawn back into a relationship with them. Because frankly my dear, based on your questions here today I question your ability to make good decisions in this matter.
His keeping you away from the ex boyfriends may be the best way to keep you as wife. I've seen nothing here which would cause me to draw another conclusion.
2007-03-16 00:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ihave to agree with flagger but i'm not afraid to tell you what i think. Frankly i think you keep them around so you can get some on the side. You don't need all those ex's around if you truly love your husband. So curb your activity with the ex's and concentrate on your hubby and marriage or you might find out what divorce is all about.
2007-03-16 01:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer to that is H**L NO its not OK its totally wrong i would have a fit if my husband did that and i have told him he can't talk to his Ex-Wife but yes i saw you are talking about BF's but the say rules apply if you know it bugs him why do it? show him you respect his opinion and listen to him even if it bugs you find a middle ground
2007-03-16 06:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably your husband is insecure about himself when he compared himself and your ex boyfriend. Maybe you ex boyfriend is better then him in some ways. Men have egos sometimes so he feel jealous that your previous boyfrens are better then him. If you want to hang out with your exes bring him along but make sure he feels included. Limit your time spend with your exes and make sure you hang in groups. Always assure him that you are his wife now and that you hope that he trusts you.
2007-03-16 00:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by lemonade 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
In a way it is................... They are your past he is your present and future.
You being friends with them makes him feel insecure. He probably feels like you could drop him and go back with them.
They are ex's for a reason the past is the past leave it there.
Really what reason do you have to be friends with them anyway?
2007-03-16 01:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop whinning and GET OVER IT. You may be married, but you are not "owned property" that he can control every move. It doesn't matter if he has one ex and you have 500, an ex is an ex is an ex is an ex. If you get along with your ex's, then good for you, because most don't. Just tell him to compromise...if he can't, b i t c h slap him.
2007-03-16 00:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by kurious kat 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Not so much disrespectful as an open door to infidelity. No matter how trusting, etc.
2007-03-16 00:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No! Your spouse should learn to get along with your friends, no matter who they are and no matter what you relationship was before they showed up.
2007-03-16 00:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋