I have an internet pal I met on answers, and he is coming to town fairly soon. Now, keep in mind I've known them a few months, but we chat daily and have gotten to know the other one, and have called, etc. I would like to meet them for lunch (public place, just meeting) and just hang out. I want my husband to join us, be he is so anti-social its scary! How can I hang out with this person (a bi male) without conflict? He and I are like best friends now!
2007-03-15 23:45:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like my husband...anyone from the internet is bad bad bad...hehehe
meet in a public place..have a coffee...chat...go in a group..or with a few friends...it's fun when it's a whole group..:) safety in numbers...:)
2007-03-15 23:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand your conflict here. I have an internet friend of 6 years who lives in America. He even helped me out one time when I was really broke (believe it or not, he wired me $200!). He has observed from afar a great deal in my life and I consider him a valuable friend.
It's years and years later now and I am married. He is comming to London soon and wants to meet for a coffee, but I am plagued with guilt about it because I don't want to upset my husband. I don't think he would be "jealous" as such, just worried that this guy might be a wierdo.
So, the question is, do you respect your partners feelings and leave well alone or assert your own independence. Personally, having giving my own situation much thought, if I were you I would explain as openly and honestly how you feel and that this meeting is important to you and just follow your instinct.
Remember we are in relationships because we choose to share our time with the other, not because of ownership.
2007-03-16 07:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Donna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a simple question? I think you will have to go it alone, at least on the first meeting. If it's reasonably public, you should be able to judge the situation without fear, and then take it from there. Maybe your hubby is a bit thrown by the 'bi-' label. You'll have to deal with that when the time comes!
2007-03-16 06:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This really isn't such a simple question. Only you know your husband and how far he is willing to extend himself. Hopefully he knows about your friendship with this guy and is okay with it. I suggest you talk with your husband about the meeting and find out if he's willing to go along with you. He really can't be expected to change and put on a show to impress your friend. Whether or not your hubby decides to meet your friend with you, I think you should also let your friend know about your hubby's social behavior to prevent potential misunderstandings before they happen. Just be open and straight with both of them, accept your hubby's choice, and prepare yourself accordingly.
2007-03-16 07:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remain best friends on the internet.
It may not remain so if you know each other. It's better if you never know. You're married. That's another reason why you should not go meet the guy. I'm not old fashioned. Just old enough to know about lots of things. :-)
Be happy with what you have now!
2007-03-16 06:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
leave your husband at home
2007-03-16 06:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont blame your husband,i would smack this other blokes *** and yours for going down that track
2007-03-16 06:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋