does it hurt when you lose your virginity. . . like when you do it the first time ever?!
2007-03-15 23:42:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
does it hurt soo much that you dont wanna cary on? and if it does hurt the first time then why do they wanna do it again?
2007-03-15 23:47:06 · update #1
it does hurt for some girls. for others not.
its kind of depends on your own body.
like if you were active in sports like horse riding or gymnastics, you might have torn your hymen (the little piece of skin that 'tears' when you have sex the first time), when you were horse riding or something.
if you had used a dildo or vibrator before, or inserted something into your vagina, like an object or your fingers.
my suggestion (from my own experience), is to start by stretching the opening of your vagina bit by bit before having sex.
also, when you do have sex for the first time, you will be nervous, and the muscles at the vagina will tense up, and make penetration more difficult. make sure you are sufficiently lubricated. or let your man wear a condom that has extra lubricant on it. if you are not married. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let him wear a condom.
if you married when you have sex, maybe get some lubricant handy, like ky jelly.
also maybe have a bit of wine beforehand, just to relax you.
if the man loves you at all, he will be gentle, caring and understanding.
listen carefully. if he wants you to have sex to prove your love. leave him. tell him to piss off. he is then not worth having your virginity.
it is a gift that you can give only ONCE. then its gone forever. dont give it to someone that doesnt appreciate it.
try and refrain from sex till ur done with school, and in a stable, loving relationship.
having sex isnt cool. it doesnt make you more stylish, or like, or valued. be unique. be an individual. what is more boring than conforming to the norm.
be different. you wont be sorry.
2007-03-19 02:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by african_woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think many here are scaring you, and they do that in purpose, out of no-real-kindness. It might hurt, of course, I also thought that, but it didn't at all, I even didn't feel anything, even though I was bleeding a bit. Of course this depends on each individual. As one wrote you, if it really hurts, than something goes really wrong. If you will feel love and feel relaxed, you will trust your partner, he will pay attention to your feelings, nothing can go wrong. You both can concentrate to this very moment, you will tell if there is pain, he will stop, etc. Just relax, it is not such a big thing and everyone speaks about. I know, you are young and hardly believe what I say, but now I am older and I see it is much the scaring around. If you are relaxed, you trust, your feel loved, things will go much easier - for sure. Good luck.
2007-03-16 07:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt you yes, the first time it will hurt you a little more, after that also it might hurt you but only when you start at it. But when you reach at a point you will enjoy it and that is what makes you wanna do it again or carry on with it.
2007-03-15 23:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by alice_nobleandkind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is never supposed to hurt...if it hurts then something is wrong, physically or emotionally. When a woman says that having sex for the first time hurt, that tells me she was not emotionally ready to have sex or she was uncomfortable in the situation. For example, if you are in your parents home you may have a nagging feeling that you are going to get caught which can lead to tension which means your not relaxed enough to really enjoy the moment so it will hurt.
2007-03-16 02:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Alley C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its been a long time but it's not something to be afraid of. So don't worry about it. If the guy your going to be with knows it's your first time and cares for you I'm sure he'll be careful not to hurt you.
2007-03-15 23:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in LOVE, and making love (vs. casual sex) No, it does not hurt a bit.
As a life time of intimacy is far more fulfilling and rewarding.
Your first time you will always remember... why not make it a memory worth remembering!
Don't make the mistake of not waiting it is well worth the wait of eliminating all doubts. Not worth the risks STDs etc.
(Eliminating all the "what if's" alone should be an answer in itself.)
2007-03-15 23:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what hurt you are talking about. If you are talking of emotional hurt, how did you would lose it? if you are raped or you are forced, of course it hurts but if you do it freely then it doent. But if you are talking about physical hurt, then yes from the start especially if the penis is too big for the vagina or if it is not lubricated but afterwards you will be ok
2007-03-15 23:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hurry!
It hurts a little the very first time.
If he cares about you, the hug after will make you forget the pain!
2007-03-15 23:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by emi79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first time yes, it hurts... you need lots of foreplay, that means lots of kisses, caresses, before, that will lubricate your vagina, then if you use some lubricator it would be better... the second time it won't hurt too much and you will begin enjoying it.
2007-03-16 05:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by User 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can do, just make sure you are totally relaxed and it shouldn't hurt too much
2007-03-15 23:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋