she is 42 and has had 3 miscarriages, the last one was 16 years ago, she says the last time she miscarried she had a flu/chest infection and she also has one now so its gettign her stressed but im thinking the stress will be doing more harm than the infection. how can i, as husband and future father, help her stay calm and does anyone know which medications (paracetamol, aspirin, ibuprofen etc) are safe to take when pregnant oh and can you wear nicotine patches when pregnant.
sorry for being a bit muddled but any help will be welcome.
2007-03-15 23:24:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok you can take paracetamol while your pregnant stay away from aspirin and ibuprophen until youve spoke to your doctor or pharmasist im not sure about the nicotine patches best to vist the midwife every clinic has one dedicated to stopping smoking
instead of meditation try giving her a massage with eucalyptys and lavender oils this will help her breathing and help her relax use candlelight and a warm bath to start of
hope all goes well for you
2007-03-15 23:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by infinate_angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I really do. Who knows what is going on in her head. There will be a lot of speculation and I can add my little bit as well. She was probably caught up in the whole wedding thing but once the reality of being married actually hit home she baulked. She is having no contact with you because she has not got a good answer to give you as to why she left. You weren't mean or fighting or abusive she just didn't want to be with you anymore. She has caused major damage in your life (which I'm sure she knows) and it is her fault! As for leaving the other stuff, she took what she needed and because you are a good guy she knows that you will be a free storage unit until she plans her next move. You were right to change the locks, if she moans about it tell her you lost your keys and had to have them changed. She is a lost cause, you will never figure our her motivation for doing what she did, you are wasting your time and energy even trying. Get yourself sorted and let her live the life she has chosen for herself. Good luck
2016-03-16 21:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good DR. in the loop ASAP. For headache washing hair with warmer then usual water helps. Try to stay away from medications. I read few European studies on smoking while pregnant and it looks like it's not all that great to take her off dependency now when child's brain is being developed. It's a huge stress by itself. Based on the studies it's better reduce smoking to minimum (like a cigarette in a morning and one after each main meal, she would know).
As for stress try to spend more time together, walk in the park, be outside, enjoy your life and comfort her. Aromatherapy is great too. If she has a healthy pregnancy that should be enough.
Best of luck!
2007-03-17 17:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Remodeling Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I can tell you that there isn't much you can do to help her stay calm. After 1 early miscarriage and 1 stillbirth, my third pregnancy was scary. Every time the least little thing happened, I was worried that something bad would happen again. Luckily for me, my second was born happy and healthy, but I'm not sure that anything would have helped my state of mind much during the pregnancy. There are just too many things that can go wrong. I don't mean to be pessimistic. Just want to say do the best you can, but don't expect that you can be much help.
2007-03-15 23:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her Dr. can advise her on what to take and possibly make her feel more at ease about the pregnancy. She should drink a lot of water to keep the fetus highly hydrated and stay off of her feet. Do a very minimum of walking around. Don't know at how many weeks she miscarried. My daughter is prone to miscarriages and this is what the Dr. made her do. Good luck to you both. Medicine has come a long way in the last l6 years. There are things she can take now to help prevent a miscarriage. Check it out.
2007-03-15 23:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by peach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am sorry to hear your wife is stressed at this amazing time. Paracetamol is the only painkiller recommended for use in pregnancy, do not take lemsips with a cold, paracetamol and honey and lemon drink will help. As for nicotine patches, it is recommended not to but if the choices are smoking or patches my doctor suggested patches were much safer and also safer than the stress caused from stopping cold turkey if a heavy smoker.
t must be a very worrying time for you both and I hope everything goes well for you, good luck
2007-03-16 01:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ktloop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 weeks gone and have got another rotten cold, the second in three weeks. Feeling ill is bound to make your wife feel down about everything. Feed her lots of vitamin C and chocolate.
I would reassure her that midwife/pregnancy care has progressed a long way in the past 16 years so she should talk to her doctor who may be able to recommend that she gets more regular check-ups.
Good luck with everything.
2007-03-16 01:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by Oakesy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all she can take when pregnant is paracetamol but they only advise you taking it if you really need it. Part of the fun of being pregnant is that you catch every bug going. Tell her to relax, the stress really wont be doing her any favours.
As for the nicotine patches yes she can wear the 16 hour ones. Tell her to ask her midwife to put her in touch with a smoke free pregnancy midwife. I had one and she was amazing i only needed the patches for a few weeks and i never went back to smoking she was really helpful. Like my midwife said the one chemical in a patch for a short period is much better than the 4000 in a cigarrette.
2007-03-15 23:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best advice you can get is off the doctor. we are not doctors. 3 miscarriages is a lot to cope with, i had 1 and that was bad enough. seek medical advice and until then keep clear of all the things you are unsure of. i know for a fact you cant take ibuprofen, and an infection doesnt mean youll miscarry. im 20 weeks pregnant and i have a kidney infection right now and me and my lil baby are ok.
just tell her to take it easy till she sees a doctor.
good luck.
2007-03-15 23:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She CAN take nicotine patches while pregnant - the doctor might say no but check with other medical professionals and they will tell you its OK, my daughters baby is 12 weeks old and she used them. Try get your wife to relax a bit and paracetamol is OK.
2007-03-15 23:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋