My husband and I have been married for 5 years. Everything is great! He's really sweet... He has several qualities. But there's a catch... We havent had sex in the past 4 months. Everything seems the same. I know for a fact he isn't cheating. He says he's just exhausted. I feel so "dissed" when I try to instigate it and he doesn't want to. I feel Im too young to give up sex (I'm 26). I'm really not bad looking...hmmmmmmmm. Serious answers please
2007-03-15 23:20:39 · 20 answers · asked by P E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, you should try to find an understandable emotional reason like stress, depression or anxiety. Studies show that those affect men and women's sexuality, and they are easier to solve than medical reasons and sometimes temporary. The best way would be to try talking about it... Not the easiest thing to do, and maybe you have already tried, but the least complicated and unexpensive solution. If you can talk maybe you should try finding professional help... if it's something that can't be solve immediately at least it could help you both understand the situation better.
In the mean time, get a vibrator (no joke)... I'm sure he'd prefer that than you looking for satisfaction somewhere else... Sex shouldn't be something to be negotiated and you shouldn't have to settle for a sexless life.
2007-03-15 23:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, a husband has no sexual feelings toward his wife because of the bitter past. You say you are 26, and at that age, a man should be crawling on his knees to knock you up.
It is possible you have insulted his sex act, made him feel low about himself, kept nagging at him and made him feel less than a man. If so, then have patience, love him, understand him and try to change his feelings toward you.
However there is another reason. He may have STD or he is becoming impotent. Get the truth out of him lovingly and help him and help both of you.
2007-03-16 06:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first, have him see your doctor. Maybe this is more deeply rooted than you think. I don't know why everyone thinks that there's another person in the background right away. There could be some sinister medical problem in the background.
Men are borne to problems just as women are, prostrate problems, erectile dysfunction, Blockage of the major blood vessels as in cholesterol or plaque buildup creating loss of blood pressure in the area. Physical muscle problems related to stress or just tired. There could be many problems related to this issue but, you have to address them one at a time. See your doctor first, then maybe a Urologist if warranted.
2007-03-16 06:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you KNOW he isn't cheating then perhaps he is exhausted and stressed. Maybe you should plan a private weekend away just the two of you. Go to a bed and breakfast. Do not put pressure on him and let him relax and see what happens.
2007-03-16 06:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might depend on his age and health. Men peak at 18 (we don't til 35!), and their testosterone goes downhill after that. Encourage him to see a urologist, get his testosterone level checked, and just a general physical. You never know, it could be something physical that is easily remedied. Also, men tend to not want sex when they are depressed - which is a situation you have to handle really delicately because you don't want to be picking at him, nagging at him, making him feel worse. For now, don't be selfish and think of yourself - time to be serious about working on your relationship.
2007-03-16 08:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important, but so is staying awake behind the wheel. If he is exauhsted, i am assuming he is working. Its easy to think your sex drive is higher you aren't being as active throughout the day. Rest is important. I think bumping uglies is to for a couple. Communicate with him, and find out what the tiredness is about. Maybe its an illness he is experiencing.
2007-03-16 06:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
4 Months is not really big time passed...
Away from your Life...
It seems that there no wrong with your...
Husband also only thing is...
He is just bit stressed out...
Don't give up with your feeeling...
He need Time Out....
from his work...
So he can think about you and...
Physical pleasure as well... OR...
Create Romantic environment in House...
Play sweet Music, Chocolates...
Memorize those time you both spent together...
And FIRE will ignite in his MIND and HEART...
Good Luck !!
2007-03-16 09:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by hitz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may have a medical problem, especially if he's tired all of the time. Suggest you get him to the doctor to find out what's going on. Best of luck, and don't give up on him!
2007-03-16 06:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong. Do something and find out what is going on now, before you end up with a cross-dresser that likes your underwear better than you do! You ARE too young to give it up.
2007-03-16 06:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be stresses from work that are causing him to be exhausted, things he isn't telling you about.
You need to let him know how you feel and make it clear you feel neglected.
Hope this helps and Good luck.
2007-03-16 06:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋