When I was at primary school I had a close friend who died in an accident..
In prep school, I had a close friend whom I lost gradually when we got into separate classes in secondary school..
After that I had a friend -I picked myself- who joined the same college with me & stayed with me like 5 years or so..then I started to feel she's hurting me & suddenly realized she wasn't a good choice but I was too weak to end our friendship all the past time..so, oneday, I exploded & ended it completely..some friends tried to get us together again but I totally refused saying " I don't want her "..
Now, I'm on my last year at college..I need a friend, but It sounds too late..everybody already has their friends from the first year & noone is looking for new friends..
Everyday I try to get a friend someway or another, but I fail..which makes me feel bad about myself..
Is getting friend so hard, or its something about me?
2007-03-15 23:16:06 · 9 answers · asked by Basma E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you are weak, people might take advantage of you. Even close friends might do it unintentionally. I don't know how you are, but if you are too nice and try hard to make friends, people might back off. The best thing is to build up a strong personality, and let in the ones who are willing to get close to you.
2007-03-15 23:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Vinh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop pushing people away... it's hurting you and the other person... No wonder you feel alone... They might get the expression that you are a snob or you demand so much from your friends... Try hanging out on different places like coffee shops, libraries... or go to the gym where you can meet alot of people. When I had a friend during elementary, we were so close but fell apart during 6th grade... so I mingled with other people and met so many friends that I still cherish up to this day and don't forget to smile so people won't back away...
2007-03-15 23:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by hipandalive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just like in a romantic relationship - desperation is a turn-off! I agree with the other answers above, you should have many general friends, this will help you through life. What happened to make you think or realize your friend was hurting you?
2007-03-15 23:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nadine - Unity CEO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to get some area from her. She's like a drug to you, so the withdrawals going to suuuuuuck. because you're valuable she doesn't experience a similar, it really is time to come across a distinct woman to get to entice close. you do not could end your friendship, in simple terms end torturing your self with assistance from continuously being accessible on your love pastime. Get a activity with another associates, ideally adult adult males, so that you'll enable the sentiments die out because in concept getting area may help you get your wits again. you want time to regulate how your ideas and heart see her to make certain that you to get well. So this gained't ensue over evening. strong success to you!
2016-11-25 23:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by ecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babes...its milestone in your life. These will make you a strong person as well your judgement for people will be accurate. You need this as people at your workplace may be hyporite and might use u..its possiblity and you can end up loosing trust on people. But your this experience will help you to know who is right and no right and in turn you'll be good at making few frend and good ones who you know you can count on even if your not in touch with them...Good luck...take every lesson as good learning.
2007-03-15 23:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sneha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot continue doing the same thing, the same way and expect a different outcome. You have to change your attitude to relationships.
Nobody is perfect including you so, you must learn tolorance and patience which are the two basic ingredients for a lasting friendship.
2007-03-16 00:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by comradechris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, this is NOT the end of the world. Wait till you join the corporate life, earning a salary and self sufficient. You will meet all sorts of friends in that area.
2007-03-15 23:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being yourself for a change. People don't like fake. It may take you a while to figure out who you really are after all do you even know?
2007-03-15 23:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont need 1 close friend you need lots of general friends although we all crave 1 sometimes as you have found out it can be destructive - be patient it will come
2007-03-15 23:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by boo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋