How do I fix this?I already promised my ex he could stay for as long as he needs to get his life together because he's in a really bad place right now but my husband is upset enough as it as that I didn't even consult him.What do I do?I just wanted to help so badly I didn't think about how my husband would feel.What would you do?
2007-03-15 23:10:40 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you should speak to your husband and find out WHY he is so upset... and make sure that you talk to him whilst naked... that should calm him down... :D
2007-03-15 23:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, I'm sorry but I'd be pissed at you too. You have a clear lack of respect, or regard for your current husband. That is not YOUR house, that is the house you share with your husband. You didn't even ASK your husband what he thought of that idea. You just went ahead, took it upon yourself to make a decision based on what you wanted, and what you felt was OK. Did you REALLY think your husband would open the door when the bell rang, and welcome your ex with open arms when he didn't have a clue? No, you weren't eating at a fancy restaurant, but this is worse. This was the intimacy of the home you share with your husband. If you're so concerned about your son and having his father in his life, then schedule father/son bonding times. Bringing an ex over to eat at the same table with your new husband is ballsy. REGARDLESS if you have a "friendly" relationship with him. That's just wrong. Your husband isn't selfish. You are. And the stubbornness and refusal to apologize is frankly, shocking.
2016-03-16 21:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a poor decision on your part you can't make that kind of commitment without talking to your husband. Would you like one of his ex girlfriends to come stay with you? If your husband doesn't approve then you will have to try and find him somewhere else to stay your ex boyfriend is not your responsibility or your husbands. Best thing to do is sit down and talk about it when your husband calms down if he still doesn't want it to happen then call your ex and tell him your sorry but it can't happen.....
2007-03-15 23:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I do?
I would tell you that there is no way in hell your ex is living in my house for one hour.
You would be instructed to call this guy and tell him in clear terms to stay the hell away and don't call.
I would also point out that I do not have that much patience and altruism to invite my previous rival in.
If you feel that obligated to the ex you should move out.
That's what I would do.
You on the other hand owe husband a big apology .
2007-03-16 00:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a big mistake allowing your ex boy friend stay in your house without consulting your husband? Other than the fact you wanted to help out your ex, is there any other motivation?
Get your ex out of the house. Apologize to your husband and next time think before you act this way.
2007-03-15 23:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you really this stupid???
How would you feel if the tables were turned and it was your husband inviting an ex of his to live under your roof?
Face it, you goofed big time. And the only way to "fix" it is to get on the phone to your ex right away and explain to him that you made your rash promises without consulting with your husband and must therefore withdraw them.
Then hope that your husband wants to stay married to someone as empty-headed as you seem to be.
2007-03-15 23:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How could you have made such a terrible mistake. Your ex in your husband's house? that's sheer madness. You want to have the best of both worlds on a platter.
Immediately send the shameless impostor out of your matrimonial home before your husband does something regrettable.
His presence is not only insulting but aggravating.
2007-03-15 23:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by comradechris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you care about how your Ex feels more than your husband. Bad move honey. If I was your husband, I would take my nuts out of your purse, put my foot down, and let you know that if dude puts so much as a foot through my door, he's gonna find himself pickin his teeth out of the gutter next to his Ex-girlfriend. You gotta lot of sack lady, I'll say that.
2007-03-16 00:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Donnie Darko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats done is done, all you need to do now is get your ex another place to stay, explain to him why he cant stay at your place, I understand where your husband is coming from, aplogise and and try and explain where you were coming from too when you offered the place to your ex, however ensure your ex doesnt stay with you , also ensure you talk to your husband next time your inviting someone over especially if its a man. All the best!
2007-03-15 23:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helloo? I would be peed off if my wife asked her ex boyfriend to stay without asking. Ring your ex back and tell hi, that you have to get your husbands approval first. In this case asking your husband would be the normal and right thing to do. I would not expect my wife to ask my permissin for everything but this would be one of those times. I would do same if ex girlfriend wanted to stay
2007-03-15 23:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from your husbands point of view. How would you feel if he did the same with a past girlfriend.. If you value your marriage at all don't do it. I can't blame the man for being mad. What you did was very disrespectful toward him.
2007-03-15 23:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋