i am a married from four year back i have one kid also
2007-03-15 22:12:43 · 40 answers · asked by rupa b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a vibrator.
2007-03-15 22:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should try to understand the reason for his distaste in sex?
Is he having a physical problem? I don't think so, because you have a kid, & your marriage is only 4 years old. May be he is working too hard. do you take care of how you look? or has bringing up the kid taken away your time for maintaining your figure? women tend to put on a lot of weight post delivery. Or is he involved in an affair? Unless you find out the reason, nobody can help you.
By the way, there is nothing wrong in asking your husband why he is not interested. It may sound embarrassing, but will save you a lot of trouble & time. Ever heard of the saying "There's no better way to do it, than do it yourself"....
2007-03-18 10:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Philip G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second Jennie S. Nice answer. That's probably the reason. You should try to make yourself more attractive, physically. Another thing important here, you are married for four years and have a kid, it's possible that your husband is too busy in his work. Just like sex, for a responsible man securing the financial future of you and your child / children is also extremely important. Probably he is ambitious and planning something big for you guys. If that's the case, support him. Don't nag behind. Also, how's your emotional relationship?
Solution here is what Jennie S told. Make yourself attractive. Physically and emotionally. Make him think about you. And if he's work crazy, support him. As he needs your support more than anything else.
2007-03-16 21:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by www.vedicearth.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for four years and have a kid... If it is just a normal reduction in the frequency as compared to the one at the time you got married and had no kid, you are over reacting. If it is just 'no activity' at all, you need to worry.
The latter situation demands you to discuss with your hubby and find out the reasons. It could be:
1. Health
2. Work Pressures
3. General Lack of Interest
4. The presence of Kid (it is sometimes awkward)
5. Timings (body clock)
6. Monotony & Lack of variety
7. Disparity in your demand and his capacity to fulfill the same.
8. An affair (not indicated as such)
The solution shall depend upon the analysis of the problem accordingly.
2007-03-15 22:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey this has been experienced by a lot of females these days due to the hectic routines of our husbands. In you case 4 years + a kid means there is nothing wrong with him, but just a lean patch of his sex life. There are some things you can and must do if you want to have a continous drive in you both which can help you. Write to me and I will be happy to give you the pros and cons in this relationship, bye.. Doctor..
2007-03-16 00:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jus4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have to look yourself for the reasons, find and flush it out from your life. Finally its you who have to take the discission,
If nothing is possible for bringing back the system on track, pl go ahead and find some new...../ there are other alternates also but it all depends on you what is your choice. But take care the life and future of your kid is with you.
You can email me at yahoo.co.in with full back ground . Your hubby may be depressed/extra workload/ suffering from some disease that he doesnot want to pass on to you/Medical check up will give you good reply.
Take care, have faith in god and try to build you nest stronger.
2007-03-16 02:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-16 01:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u r having a kid your husband is lacking the mood of sex.
2007-03-15 22:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the reason for his lack of interest and revive his interest through tried and tested methods viz. being a temptress or seductress. If it fails, take him to a sex consultant and try to give him the best possible treatment for sexual disorder. If even that fails, you are entitled to find sexual satisfaction elsewhere. You may go for a divorce and find another man. That would be legal. Illegally, you can go for one night stands or find a boy friend for yourself.
2007-03-16 05:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might happened due to early birth of offspring.
Probable Solution: Try giving more time to your husband and try to talk about the good old days (don't mention sex any where)
2007-03-15 22:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sohini G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to do something different like putting something on that you think he might like or back off for a week and act like you don't care if you get it or not. I think you should try and go out dress very very nice and flurt with every man that you see and don't make it like you won't him to see then when he says some thing just say what. insure him that he is the only man for you and so on
2007-03-15 22:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋