she was in love with me for many years and I have not done anything wrong in my life! just one day morning she woke up and she felt different...she admits that I am a good husband, but she has no feeling on me...she wants to break our relationship once, but I said I can continue...because of my son. what do you think? anyone can help me? God bless you.
2007-03-15 22:11:54 · 20 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think your wife has lost it, take her to a counsellor or a phyciatrist........
2007-03-15 22:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do fall out of love. Apparently she is one of those people. For some marriage becomes redudant.
Some women also need to feel they are still attractive to OTHER men. She may be going through that phase. Doesn't have a darn thing to do with you. It is her mode of thinking that has created this fissure.
She made the first move, you know what her feelings are so about all you can do is wait. The ball is in her court. You cannot force her to stay. Emotional blackmail only causes resentment.
Grass is always greener on the other side. For you, if she does leave...you WILL heal. It will take time and you will grieve, but there is life beyond divorce. Keep on loving your son. Let her fly.
Take care and keep the chin up.
2007-03-15 22:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's going through a bad patch. I would hang in there. But maybe she needs a reality check.
I've been a single parent and it is very hard. Not only for the child. Unless of course, she has a boyfriend in the background.
This is no reason to break up your home - why don't you go for counselling. Why should your son suffer because his mother is immature? Now she decides she made a mistake!!!!
Please don't come across as being too reasonable. No one likes a doormat. This is the time to show your mettle! Show her how strong you are - and how much you value your son.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 22:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can happen, just as you fall in love , you can fall out of love, it doesn't mean that there is someone else, or she is a lesbian, or anything like that....something changes inside and your feelings change for reasons sometimes you don't even know yourself. Just give her some space to sort her feelings out, and if she really feels that way, just let her go....you can always stay friends, and should, because you have a son together and you love each other, not as husband and wife but as friends. Sorry if I hurt you, but I believe it can happen and the best way to end it is the way you got together, in a civilized way. Good luck to both of you, I know its not easy, but you can't force someone to stay with you or love you.
2007-03-15 22:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son, cause loveless marriages exsist all the time. Can he understand that people do things that don't seem to make sense. If you both can successfully live in the same house together for your son, start dating to get a gf. Divorce is very expensive and gets nasty, but you deserve someone that will treat you good. Your wife will either get angry when her brother has a girlfriend or will leave you for her gf
2007-03-15 22:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but i think you should let her go, dnt make it difficult on yourself cause it happened with me and i keep on taking my husband back with thinking its gonna work this time. I just cant fall inlove with him anymore. Sure i love him and he is a great father and my son totally adores her dad but i just cant get myself to feel excited with him anymore.
I feel quilty cause i took him back after ive decided to get a divorce and he thought everything would just be fixed, but that is not how it works, after a week and a half i felt the same old feelings coming back getting those old feelings, of did i make the rite choice seeing again why we actually stayed apart for a month. It killed my husband to finally hear im not inlove with him anymore and if i just let it go this wouldnt have happened. So my point being is let her go cause in the long run both of you will be miserable.
2007-03-15 23:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Suggestions:
-She might be depressed, feelings for others can be temporarily changed or lulled. Stress is a horrible thing. Do something romantic for her.
-Ask her if there is any other reason she wants a divorce. She may have someone in mind to go to.
In any event, you deserve love like everyone else. Do what feels right to you.
2007-03-15 22:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by adriannamarie19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many a marriage has been wrecked
because the woman has lost respect
Nobody but you has the drivers seat
Be a man stand on your own two feet
If she thinks the grass is greener, let her go
you have to pay to cut it,you reap what you sow
The winner stands up after many falls
You'll can do better than her but, it's still your call
2007-03-15 23:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stay together for the sake of your child. That will devestate him. If your wife no longer loves you as a husband then I say you need to let her go. As harsh as it sounds, peoples feelings change and there isn't anything we can do about it.
2007-03-15 22:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counceling, if she's willing. If she isn't, I would just go seperate ways. It's unfortunate, but not uncommon for people to grow apart. You two obviously lost whatever drew you together in the first place. Unfortunately, it sounds like it happened to long ago to rectify. Might be time to part ways bud. Good luck. Hope that helps....Peace
2007-03-16 00:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Donnie Darko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried the "for the sake of the children" bit. Trust me , it doesn't work. If she won't consider consuling with you I don't see any other choice than divorce.
2007-03-15 22:16:41
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I think wizard may be right. Usually there's another dude invovled and lined up to take your place. BUT that's not true in every case.Good luck, I know it su