Let's say you once loved someone. Then something happened, and you broke up, divorced, he/she died, whatever. A few years down the line, you suddenly realized that the person was actually the love of your life (how you came to this conclusion is up to your imagination, assuming that there is only one true love per person per life). What would you do? Would you try loving again, even though you know you'll never find true love again?
2007-03-15 21:48:48 · 12 answers · asked by shaunarthur 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I mean, would you try loving someone else when you know that he/she is not your true love?
2007-03-15 21:57:53 · update #1
How can you know definitively that someone was "the love of your life," until your life is finished?
2007-03-16 01:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by polaris_20202000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-03-16 02:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As adults, we have to grow up at some point in our lives and avoid harmful fantasizing. Many of us have had persons whom we really loved, but for some reason the relationship just did not work out. We later realize that the person with whom we were involved may have been the love of our life. Maybe I and the person could have made a great team, if we would have stayed together; maybe not. But let us assume that we have moved on since that time and gotten married to someone else or now have produced a family with another person. Let us also pretend that our present situation is not as "passionate" as our former relationship was, but the present relationship is still one of mutual respect and love.
In my opinion, it would be dangerous to then worry about what could have been. How would that help one's present relationship or contribute to its well-being? Some of the country songs say it best. One song says not to worry about what might have been. It is time to move on. Finally, Garth Brooks has a song in which he thanks God for unanswered prayers. As I now hear about my erstwhile "true love" from time to time, I am compelled to side with Garth. Sometimes, it is best if God does not answer our prayers. Some relationships are better off being null and void.
If you are single and the other individual is single, then that would be between you and your beloved. Nevertheless, I still think that it might be best to move on in most cases, rather than wonder about what might have been.
2007-03-16 00:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by sokrates 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been over a decade since I met the one I think of as my first true love. She's never loved me so I don't know if it counts. I've never stopped loving her and we are close friends today. That doesn't mean that I spend my life thinking "what if?" or that I try to make her love me. She's a life experience that I wouldn't want to live without and I'm happy that she's still my friend.
I moved on and I've found love again, it's different from what I feel for her, but that doesn't make it less important or less strong in any way. I think that "true love" is individual to the person that you love and that it's possible to have more than one true love if you are open for it. Locking yourself to someone in your past shuts the door for future loved ones.
2007-03-16 00:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by --- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the alternative? I remember a song with the words, "It's not love but it's not bad." There's a lot of possibilities between the one true love and living alone in pathetic solitude.
2007-03-15 21:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I never look back on my losses unless I can learn from them. Realising you were in love with someone doesn't mean you should try it again with them - you were in love with that person at one time of their life. They have probably changed now, and you have for sure.
2007-03-15 21:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That atchally happened to my cousin. Her first boyfriend she ever dated she is now married to and they really live eachother, but he joined the army thats sad, but she still loves him and lives with him, they have been married for a while now. Why she ever broke up with him was that he kept pretending to break up with her. She didn't tell me how the speck they got back together, but I'm so happy for her she is only 20 and she dated him for like 1 week before he started pretending to break up with her and she dated him when she was 17. I have no idea when they got back together.
2007-03-15 21:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Madeliene Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on! After loosing a precious love to death often the surviving partner doesn't seek another partner, knowing full well that no one could possibly measure up
2007-03-16 06:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question. can´t I go back to my true love???, that´s what I would do....in case he is dead, I would probably still date men and so on, life is very lonely all alone...
2007-03-15 21:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont look for it. but wont be against it either. love fill find you whenevr its time. embrace it, its a blessing.
2007-03-15 21:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by cranberries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋