I'm married, been married for five months. I had a fling with a guy four years ago. I have no chance with him so why do I still thnk he is the one and want to be with him. whats wrong wiht me. I've always known if i can't have a guy to move on. I have not even seen this guy in like a year, I just always have hope we'll find eachother again. do I need help?
2007-03-15 21:31:34 · 7 answers · asked by princess1226 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No--you are quite normal!
The emotions you are feeling are quite normal. When you had a relationship with this person in your past you had a strong connection or very good sex with him!
WE as women always lust for something we can not have or we are always hoping that the person we are with can be or act slike someone else.
Sweety, if the man you have is good to you ---just try to be happy! You already have said that there is no chance for you to be witht the other person!
2007-03-15 21:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be good qualities about your husband that you love, or you wouldn't have married him right? Focus on those things. When the other guy (who you don't have a chance with and you ARE now married to someone else) pops into your head, flip it around to think about what you love about your husband. It will be a mental tennis match for awhile, but it will get better. Have eyes only for your husband or you'll drive yourself crazy and be miserable over something that isn't changeable.
Don't allow yourself to wallow and obsess. Focus on the good that you have and the other will fade faster. Hope this helps. : ) It may not be what you were looking to hear but I really think it's best.
2007-03-16 04:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cedar_2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking the wrong question.
Why did you get married in the first place? Why don't you think back to that. You must have married him for a reason.
Also sometimes when life gets hard or you are stuck in a rut you often think back to times that were fun and happy. So instead of doing that, make your life now happy, make some changes in your life now, and you will soon forget him.
2007-03-16 04:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by racychick79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont,Only time will help ,But if enough time spent with someone the harder it is ,for me I choose to die just so I have what Ilove with me
2007-03-16 06:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Thinking4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry your husband?
2007-03-16 05:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you need a husband with a larger penis
2007-03-16 04:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get divorced, and find this man.................. if not, u'll have tihs qusetion in you mind throughout your life.
2007-03-16 05:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋