Is being married hard for other people?

Question

I dont mean I have a bad marrage but me and my wife argue constantly. Some times I dont know what to do... But all I really want to get across to her is that I love her to death..She keeps on thinking that I am looking for somebody else but im not and its killing me to know that she dont trust me.....

Answer 1

have you told her that in those exact words? If not, you might try it.
She seems a little insecure. You might also try showing some more physical attention like cuddling and hand holding, kissing, etc.

Answer 2

Your wife is obviously very insecure. Marriage is hard for everyone. It is not a guarentee that it will last forever. That is why you must work at it everyday. Somebody once told me that the hardest job you will ever have is being married. I love my husband with all my heart, but there are times when I just wanna scream and run away, but I don't because I know that I love him and what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You need to make her feel very special to you since she has insecurities. Do something for her that she wouldn't expect, bring her flowers, cal her in the middle of the day just to tell her that you are thinking about her and you miss her and can't wait to see her. Try not to argue so much, if you feel that an argument is about to begin, just say to her; listen I love you, you are the most important person to me and I don't wanna fight with you, so I am going to go in the other room and let us both cool off, so we can talk later without fighting. Don't leave the house because that will make her more insecure. If that doesn't work, try counseling. God luck and go hug your wife NOW!!!!

Answer 3

It's only hard if something has made it that way. Maybe your wife is insecure. You know women don't take things the same way a man does. Soo-think about what you have said or done that she may have taken the wrong way. There has to be a reason for having this trust thing going on. Sit down and talk with her and see what has happened. Really listen, don't turn the tv on or read the paper. Maybe between the both of you -you can figure it out. Communication is the key.

Answer 4

I recently read a book entitled "Love& Respect"by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs,and it was a real eye opener to me.Men and women have different needs.She needs to feel loved and he needs to feel respected.One triggers off the other,but who starts?
Another good book is "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" It really explains alot!
When we argue we are simply trying to get the other to undrestand we are hurting because our needs have not been met,but pride gets in the way and we end up losing it,specially if we are strong characters,which I guess you two are.
Why not try a month of meeting her needs.Women need to talk,they need you to listen and only listen,what ever you do don't try to fix it!Tell her you understand how she feels and you will support her.
Women also need to feel like a princess,do something special for her,go all out to find out from her friends what she most likes,then deliver!!!
Be the first to say I Love you,say you're sorry first after an argument.You see, you have to SHOW her you love and adore her,she must feel she is soooo special.I tell you she will be all over you,you won't believe the response.You will have shown her she is the most important person in your life and she will begin to change.
You see she is a gift from God to you,don't break your toy in a frustrated rage or you won't have one to play with!
Never insult or belittle her,It will take her alot to get over this and "shut down" is an immediate response!
If you try to get her to acceed to your wishes or even demands by trying to force her, she will shut down to you and you start what is called the crazy cicle. To get off this cycle you have to do the un natural thing and do the patching up first,you know what I mean!?!
At this point I want to assure you she will not walk all over you,she will RESPECT you,and isn't that what you've always wanted!?!
Maturity plays a great part in this.Are you mature and willing to do what it takes to keep the women of your dreams!?!
Yes women do want strong men who take the lead,but who do this by loving and cherishing them,and not forcing them.
I also recomend good sound advice from the "Holy Bible" it has the best teaching on love and respect.Look up in the new testament 1corinthians chapter13 verse 4 to 8.Try a modern translation e.g the new living translation,or the amplified version.
Love never fails!

Answer 5

Marriage is a constant work, and this is a part of it. Sadly it sounds as though she is feeling insecure. You state that you love her so much and it is killing you that she does not trust you. That is a hard thing to have to hear from someone you love, that they don't trust you. But I think the problem lies more in herself than in you. It is a deep insecurity she is having, and sadly, that can cause marriages to end. Maybe you could tell her you are willing to do anything and suggest counseling, just a suggestion. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I am in a similar situation. All these argument happened a while ago. The more we argue, the more untrust we became.
An incident happened in my marriage and trigger us to see the reality.

We are seeking counselling help at the moment and it is helping us to realise we have to be ourseleves in a relationship or else, nothing will work.

It is worlth spending time with a professional counsellor.

Answer 7

Dude I was in that boat, and it sank harder than Titanic! You need to talk to that woman, and do what ever it takes to show her your faithful. The flip side of that coin is, a lot of times people that accuse their sig. other of cheating is because they have themselves. I was there man, 7 years and 2 kids later, and I'm going through the ugliest divorce ever! I still love her and always will, but I'm burned, scarred, and emotionally wrecked. This saying is true man..."Hell hath no fury, like a woman's scorn!" Talk to her deeply, be sensitive, show her you care about HER feelings, not just yours. If the love is real, it'll work out. Fate decides the rest brother...Peace

Answer 8

All you can do is continue to reassure her. Regardless of how she acts, it's what she wants to hear. Stop all the useless fighting, all it will do is cause you to get a divorce.

Answer 9

I highly recommed reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

I know it sounds corny, but I think it is just what you need.

Answer 10

just show her your not interested in any one Else maybe she has been hurt in her past so its hard to trust