Really what is equality to you? Should a man live in truck to pay support? Should a woman sell her body to make the same payments? How do the children benefilt?! Hopefully when and if my time comes I'll get a truly fair, just and equitable settlement that benefits all. Will you ask for what is only truly right or not?
2007-03-15 21:28:51 · 7 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion a fair divorce is both people sharing the responsibility of children....both financially and raising. As far as property it should be split right down the middle...if that can't be aggreed on sell it and split the money.
My Ex and I agreed on an amicable divorce. We have joint custody of our children, no child support, split health costs and all of the extras. Property was split....everything that he walked in with he walked out with and the same for me, everything else we divided up.
Unfortunatly some people are angry and want revenge or are just greedy, money hungry people.
Divorce is supposed to be agreeing to end something that isn't working...not one last chance to get back at your ex.
2007-03-16 02:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a divorce case what matters is that the settlement is fair and just.
Depending on what caused the divorce e.g. mutual agreement, irreconcile differences, abusive and violent partner etc ...
In a case where there is mutual agreement, then the settlement is quite easy but if other causes then the wife may seek for additional payments or maintenace.
The wife and children must be supported fully and the family court will grant such payments to be made to the wife and children. And if property is involved, she may also be given some if not all the money.
Consult a lawyer and Good Luck
2007-03-16 04:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both own a home together, it is fair to sell it and split the proceeds equally after all of the outstanding debt has been paid. After that I think fair child support is whatever your state allows. If the ex-wife makes less than half of what you do, I think she should be entitled to seperate maintenance. When I divorced I went out of my way to make sure it was all equal. My lawyer tried to convince me to ask for more because I would recieve it, but I said no way, it has to be totally equal. We were married 15 years and he makes almost $100,000 per year, and I make only $30, 000 per year. Fair is fair, and I feel like it worked out well. If all parties are mature and willing to comprimise the effect on the children wont be quite as devistating, but the children will be hurt no matter what happens. Sad but true. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 04:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble of course is not what is fair but what the individuals see as fair. What may seem fair to one person may seem as getting rolled by the other. It is highly complex issue as it is not just money and children involved but the those those roller coaster non tangible factors called EMOTIONS. These emotions, such as pride, anger, hate and so forth can be the mix that means that both parties may never ever agree on what is fair.
When many people get married or partnered they often do not like to think of what may happen if they separate. Bit like talking of death- it is not a comfortable subject but, it is probably a good idea to talk about what will happen to children and goods in the event of divorce.
2007-03-16 05:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my first husband and I split, we agreed to no alimony, no child support (because we had 50/50 joint custody, so we were and still are both doing our part by her). I got the mobile home because he didn't want to live in it any more, he just gave it to me (wasn't worth much, but it was a roof). We split our debts pretty much evenly down the middle. I gave him the CD collection because it meant a lot more to him than to me, and asked him to take care of our photo albums (which he has since scanned and made prints of for me) We had a very amicable, sane, and calm split and are still very good friends to this day.
When my second husband dumped me for my best friend, he left me with tons of debt, the lot rent unpaid for two months, a disconnected phone, and a lot of worries. He stole my jewelry, closed the bank account, took the dog and the car, the stereo, the playstation, the DVD player, etc. All this without a MINUTE of warning. Three months later he gave me a cashier's check for $10,000, which went to paying off the previous five months worth of debt and left me $2,000 to live on, wheelchair bound, unable to drive to find work, argh. Thank God we had no kids, him and me. He walked out of the marriage with everything. I got $10K and the mobile home I came in with. Big jerk. He'll get his someday.
So I've had truly fair, and I've had royal shaft. Both times, I would have preferred truly fair. I could have demanded a lot more from both because of my disability, and gotten it, but I didn't. I don't play that way.
2007-03-16 04:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say 50/50 regardless of who had what in the beginning. When you get married you share everything you had and everything you get afterwards. Unless you have a prenup, that's what you have to look forward to.
2007-03-16 05:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
2007-03-16 05:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋