Ok so about 3 weeks ago a girl from church stopped talking to me.... we were starting to become good friends but like i said things got cold turkey real quick. i asked her why we stopped talking and she never answered until just a couple of days ago, she told me she just had been busy with college and work and all that , she told me that she didnt forget about me and that she missed talking to me , she has a bf but they dont see each other much , umm do you think she might have something for me or no chance she just wanted to get back in touch with me and has been just busy? i know this is a stupid question but its a question none the less, and maybe some of you girls know about this or have done this before and its because you have missed that one other guy besides your bf that you possibly could see yourself with......
2007-03-15 21:24:01 · 9 answers · asked by Cj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your question is not stupid, friend. We all have had people in our lives who we were attracted to and we just wanted to know if they are attracted to us.
Being quite honest with you, now...right off, I detect that she was maybe feeling that you were thinking there was something there between you two that, for her, was really not there. So, she got scared and thought she needed to let you know that she was not feeling it by kind of ignoring you to see if you might get the drift. This may or may not be the case here. There is a test you can perform to see how she is feeling about you at the end of this writing.
Meanwhile, just FYI, here is a situation I found myself in recently, ...I, myself, have gotten so busy with going to school and caring for my parents who are elderly and just life's demands that I once did not even check into my regular match making website for 7 months. It did not mean that I was intentionally ignoring the men I had been talking to via the website it just meant that my life was crashing in on me and I had things to take care of. There was this one guy who I detected, that he was feeling like he wanted to meet me. I did not feel the same. There were things about him that did scare me that I had found out from him and just did not want to involve myself with him in a romantic way. I still wanted to be buddies who could email back and forth, but I did not evidently feel an attractoin that he must 've felt for me. It is hard to come right out and tell a person that you are just not feeling what they are feeling. If you are a caring person, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Life does just get hectic and it could be that she really did get busy and preoccupied for a time.
The way you can know about her feelings for you is to just cool it for a while. Be nice and considerate to her and notice her, but maybe just not so eagerly. See if that sparks her desire for your company or not. If you cool it and start noticing other girls and being nice to them and check her reaction to this, it will give you a better thermometer as to her hots for you. If a girl sees a guy she really likes, in that way, drifting away a little she can get herself in gear in a hurry. If she does not change in her actions after you carry out your mission; then, guy, you have your answer pretty plain and clear. Then, that is okay. See yourself as free to seek out other girls that you may have overlooked. Life is still good, believe me, if the one you think you love does not show love to you. It does hurt. Acknowledge this hurt and say to yourself that you are not going to let this ruin your opinion of all women. If you do get hurt and let it ruin your opinion of "all" women then you will jeopardize you chances of truly finding the one meant for you. Be brave. Be true to yourself. Love yourself and others always. This attitude attracts first-quality women. I wish you well! Not all girls are looking for the stud. I know that I am not looking for that.There are those who know a good man when they see him. And, you seem like a very good man. My best wishes for you!
p.s. Oh, by the way! Church can be an excellent place to meet the one intended for you.... especially opposed to meeting at the bar. Ha! Beware! There are "snakes" in the churchhouse as well, though. Be careful who you choose. Some girls go to church just because it is what their parents told them to do or they feel self-righteous just being there so they go and want other guys to perceive them as spiritually good when they, in truth, are not. Guys can fall into this trap of church going for how it looks to the girls. On the other hand, the paradox is that there are a few good women and men who mistakenly stray into a bar, chiefly because of bad judgment. They are not going to find much of a selection there. Ha! But, each needs to ask themselves,"Do I really want to hook up with a person of such poor judgment?" So, stick with church and places of good repute and the odds are in your favor that you will find a lady of good repute.
2007-03-15 22:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Hestynuster 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its not a stupid question, if u want to know the answer.
But dot worry it happens we get REALLY busy and tend to shut everything else out and focus on what needs to be done, and if she said she missed talking to u then she would have meant it, we dont say stuff like that just to be polite, especially if u have no interest in that person because it starts more conversations and gives the idea that she is interested. and yeah i have done it for sure, i ended up with ''the other guy'' not that long after i dumped my bf. So i think u are in with a chance =)
2007-03-16 04:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess its because she didnt want to get too close to you and end up liking u instead, as she already has a bf..mayb she wanna stay loyal to her bf but kinda like u at the same time..she doesnt know what to do so she just stopped talking to you..
2007-03-16 04:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by tinklefaerie88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. I fell for my bf's best mate and ended up getting with him and we are still an item. He treats me right and is an absolute sweetheart. Just let this girl know that you are there and be her friend. She will notice ;)
2007-03-16 04:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by devilishang3lic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds confused but i think she does like u she probley needs time to clear her mind when she talks to u shes feeling something and it scarey to her thats just what i think i say give her some space an she look 4 u good luck
2007-03-16 04:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by christian1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push. Allow events to take its course. Give her some personal space. If she likes you, I'm sure she'll connect with you. Be patient!
2007-03-16 04:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is in college. she might not want to be with you. she is probably really busy and didnt mean to hurt your feelings.
2007-03-16 04:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by swanksarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend! There's no harm!
2007-03-16 05:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Shirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either she's telling the truth or not..whats her character like,,,,does she seem honest?
2007-03-16 04:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋