2007-03-15 21:03:05 · 12 answers · asked by Carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd done some pretty selfish things and am very materialistic but I do love the guy and it hurts he thinks otherwise.
2007-03-15 21:08:02 · update #1
Well I guess you are not showing him any affection and he feels he is being taken for granted by you. Try to be more affectionate and not have such a selfish way. Consider your husband first in suptle ways, and you will see he will see you in a different light. Don't push him into someone elses arms because he is looking for you to be more loving, affectionate and caring to him. If he has been a good and loving husband, put him first in your mind and heart and stop thinking about your own needs so much.
2007-03-16 07:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend tells me this all the time. i know that sounds bad lol. but we love each other. i dont think i am selfish and i always TALK IT OUT with him adn have him explain what he is talking about. most of the time we just look at a situation differently. i think i am doing something for him, but he thinks i only do it to benefit me.
promise him you will work on it. ask him what u can do to make it better.
2007-03-16 04:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your husband tell you that you only love yourself? Not others?
If he did and you feel that is wrong you need to work on ways to make him realize that you love him too.
If you feel you can only love yourself, I would also suggest that you need to work on that. There is nothing wrong with pride but you don't want to miss out on sharing your life with others who are important to it.
Find a good counselor who will help you work on these, if they are the issues. If they are not the issues, work on finding out why you may think they are.
2007-03-16 04:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a good look at myself and be honest with myself and see if there were any truth to his claim. I mean, someone else sometimes can see us in a light that we can't....maybe he is wrong , but you will not know, until you take a good honest look at yourself. Good Luck, I know that it hurts but the truth always does. Sorry if I offended you, I am just being as honest as I can.
2007-03-16 04:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel bad,very bad in fact,because it would mean that he has not noticed any of the love I have for him.What a waste of love,an emotion so special & so precious,let us hope he was in a bad frame of mind when he made this statment.
2007-03-16 04:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you've answered your own question.
You have been selfish and he and your are both acknowledging your selfishness.
Stop being so and he will come to see that too!
2007-03-16 04:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by creole lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you only love yourself???
and what happened in the 5 years for that to happen???
2007-03-16 04:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his opinion but i would feel defensive and sad... why would he say that?
i wouldnt want my husband to ever feel i dont love him.
if he only made the statement and not want to communicate further...i might feel helpless about it ...might try to figure out what i am doing/not doing to make him feel that way. peace
2007-03-16 04:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel like he knows you really well. You and Jack should run off and do your current hubby a huge favor.
2007-03-16 04:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's right....try making a point of showing him every day how important he is to you.
2007-03-16 09:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋