2007-03-15 20:33:59 · 10 answers · asked by irishredhead48 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if you're REALLY serious about it and you're sure, the best thing would be to do your homework first. Where will you live? Do you have a place to go to? Do you have a job already? If not, do you have one lined up? Have you talked to an attorney already? If not, you need to.
I would have a lot of my stuff that I absolutely had to have already packed up and ready to go. Then, pick a day and time where you and your husband can sit down and talk uninterrupted.
I don't know what all happened between the two of you but unless he has beat the hell out of you or given you a STD from him fooling around on you, he deserves a shred of respect by you calmly and tactfully telling him the truth. Tell him that you've thought this through, it's not some whim and that you simply can't go on anymore. If there's not another man in the picture, tell him that because he'll be wondering.
Regardless of what's happened, he probably still has feelings for you, so try to be tactful and tell him you want things to end smoothly and that you'll work it out who gets what in the house. Tell him you'll be in touch to talk more about it and then get up and leave.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 20:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is actually an oxymoron because there is no best way..
It is wrong...there is only a worse way to do such a thing...
You need to work it out...I once read:
The grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is greener wherever you are watering it...
You just need to start watering your marriage with love,kindness, patience, and respect and the results will be blessings blooming- we are not going to receive blessings when we are disobedient to God's will and Jesus Christ said if you even look at another woman with lust in our hearts you have sinned... this goes for us too ladies.
God wants to bless us and our families, but if we become worldly instead of spiritual we will be in the devils playground and he will shame us; with Jesus there is no shame and He takes away our current shame if we repent and start following in His ways again. Ask Him to help you, to guide you and He will.
You need to call up a Christian church and speak with the pastor or his wife they will pray for you and they will understand and help you right where you are;-the devil really enjoys destroying marrianges (It is written that he came to kill, steal,and destroy)
Divorce is a loser
It is not of God and God loves you and your husband very much...it may not be easy to get things on track; remember when you fell in love and said for better or worse...
Tis better to work it out than to give satan entry to your future...
God Bless You and I pray you call a pastor's wife right away...
God puts before us blessings or cursings...we choose; He wants you to choose blessings...
Change any unclean or unkind thoughts and only think on things that are pure and lovely...you can always change bad thoughts-it's a choice; It is written; do not think on anything too much less you day dream, guard your thoughts and your heart...and as a man thinketh...
Learning to choose blessings..
Sista C
2007-03-16 04:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by sista c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, that's a tough one. The best thing that i can tell you is that honesty is always best. It may hurt him to hear that you no longer want to be with him, but he will apppreciate your honesty in the end. When you really don't want to be with someone, you won't give them the love and respect that they deserve. Sometimes it is better to just let them go than to hurt them. I wish you the best of luck with this diffucult task you have to perform. Remember: If it's easy, it's probably not right; if it's right, it's probably not easy.
2007-03-16 03:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jaimee's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one, would need more info to answer fully, but here goes. Is this just out of the blue, if not he prob already knows. I would choose somewhere public but quiet, state clearly your reasons, wait for his response and take it from there. Some people just grow apart. If you think about it we change friends, working colleagues in fact lots of things. Sometimes we just change without even noticing. It happens. Good luck.
2007-03-16 03:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don’t know what brought you to this decision.
If it is abuse, you don’t have to explain.
If it is a boyfriend, you do. (This one will hurt and there is not a best way other than telling it like it is).
If it is boredom with the relationship take time to yourself and decide later but let him know.
You have changed. Your needs have changed.
There is no easy way to do this. If he is a good man he will be hurt.
2007-03-16 03:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i was in the same situation years ago and what i did was one night i went home and sat him down and told him that I didn't want to be married to him anymore because i wasn't happy and i packed up as much as i could and me and my daughter went to my moms until i was able to get me another place i didn't want anything from him but a divorce
2007-03-16 03:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by KIMBERLY F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put tacks under his pillow. Buy a ticket for 1 for a cruise.
2007-03-16 03:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in love with you anymore, I want a divorce.
2007-03-16 05:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "sweetie. You remeber that promise I made before God, our families, and the whole world that I would love, honor and cherish you forever until death do us part? I've decided I'm too self-centered to live up to the responsibility of that promise."
2007-03-16 03:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by kinky_scotty 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first thing you need to do is by inviting him to drink. and then you tell him nicely but remember to be Passion. i know he will get mad but you got to tell him what the problem. if he still loves you he will say "i will change the thing you don't like about me but please don' leave me".
2007-03-16 03:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by tetsuo921228 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋