K how do I tell my boyfriend that I have been spending time with my friend Kris? The hard part about is I like Kris ALOT! Like I go to his house just about everyday after school and I go see him play in his band! Now the hard part about all this is me and Kris kissed the other night just before I left for home...I haven't told my boy friend that I did this so how do I?
2007-03-15 20:23:59 · 19 answers · asked by angel5469ca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, you need to do some serious soul searching. Why did you kiss Kris? Why do you spend so much time with him? How "intimate" was the kiss? You can absolutely have male friends, but you have to set boundaries for those friendships, and those boundaries should not include intimacy of any kind.
Next, you absolutely have to tell your boyfriend . . .
> Face to face -- you need to see his reaction;
> In a casual and private setting -- don't ruin a special time,
and DON'T injure his pride (or yours);
> Do it SOON -- the longer you wait, the harder it will be.
I had a somewhat similar situation. I told my boyfriend about it, we talked it out, and because we truly love each other, he forgave me. We got married a few weeks later, and we're still very happily married ----- over 30 years later. We have been totally devoted to each other and our children, and that one incident all those years ago strenthened our trust in each other. What is meant to be, will be; but above all HONESTY makes for a much happier life.
As for those who say "Don't tell your boyfriend," ------ just remember, if you don't tell him, somebody else probably will, and it will be much easier for you to tell him than to answer his questions about why you did it AND why you didn't tell him.
2007-03-15 20:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by deejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like Kris I suggest you break up with your boyfriend.
If you think you prefer your boyfriend, and Kris is really just a friend you just happened to kiss before you left that evening, I would say....1 stop going over there immediately and 2. do not tell your boyfriend you kissed Kris.
Telling him would only cause him not to trust you.
If you keep seeing Kris everyday after school your boyfriend is bound to become suspicious of your relationship with him anyway.
You are kinda of playing with fire.
Decide what you want. Take action so as not to hurt anothers feelings
2007-03-15 21:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by creole lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't tell your boyfriend this and you don't kiss kris again. you break up with all of them and just focus on school. stop going to the neighbor's house to watch the band play and just stay at home after school because this will help your future. hang out with your family more because one day you will find that you don't have enough time for them because of job or new family of your own.
2007-03-15 20:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
By breaking up with him. You like Kris anyway so give Kris and you a chance. Break up with your boyfriend by starting with an apology of breaking his trust. And when he asks what you mean by that, then tell him about what happened and tell him that you want a "break".
2007-03-15 20:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, not good. I wouldnt bother telling your boyfriend at all. Not worth the grief it will cause.
Id say you need to re evaluate who you want to be with and follow that. It seems youve already answered your question. You like Kris ALOT. But you didnt mention your boyfriend except on how to tell him. Id say in with the new and out with the old....sorry that sounds so blunt but its true. Good Luck!
2007-03-15 20:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by AB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your boyfriend, you don't say a thing and stop going to Kris' garage band practices.
If you don't love your bf anymore, please let go of him (if you don't love him, but respect him) and move along by having a friendship with Kris.
If you want to have kaos running loose, you go ahead and tell bf of what happen with Kris, but I don't guarantee you to stay with your bf after that.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 20:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be like my ex-girlfriend she did the same to me...young and dont know what you want in life......who do you really think is going to be their for you longer kris, or your boyfriend you really love. dont even tell your boyfreind your just exploring your options. but i think you should keep seeing kris maybe he's the one 4 u. but if you really love your boyfriend you should quit this cheating out.
2007-03-15 20:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your boyfriend and start seeing Kris...
2007-03-15 20:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident what you probably did is incorrect. You cheated on your BF. despite in case you only enable that guy grab your butt and did no longer do something approximately it, it extremely is incorrect too. How might you like it in case your BF went around kissing different ladies and grabbing their butts? I wager you does no longer like it. to no longer point out the reality you knew it became incorrect when you kissed him the 1st time yet then did it lower back. i think of you need to tell your BF. he will maximum possibly unload you after which you would be able to circulate on. possibly your BF isn't surprising for you and it is the reason you probably did what you probably did. some thing is lacking there.
2016-10-18 12:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not tell your boyfriend nothing,you don't tell him nothing like that are u crazy do you want to lose your boyfriend or have him to start accusing you of stuff that you haven't even done. I think that you shouldn't say anything let that be you and your friends secret unless u plan on getting with him or something
2007-03-15 20:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by KIMBERLY F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋