I wish someone had told me how much divorce costs. I wish someone had told me you have to wait a year in England to divorce. I wish I hadn't married. I wish I could just annul the marriage and go back to square one, but it's been too many years. I don't dare divorce, I think it will be hell. My husband is so insulting, mean, and worse than that. I want to keep away from him. It doesn't seem worth fighting, should I wait until the children are all grown?
2007-03-15
20:07:16
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asked by
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Family & Relationships
➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think people should be warned before they go into the ceremony. There should be a compulsory 'information' session for the woman and the man, separately, so that they can know fully informed what they are walking into. Personally, I had absolutely no idea. No one told me.
2007-03-15
21:22:23 ·
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Thats the way it is suppose to be marriage is suppose to be for life not just for a few years then you get a new one like a car for instance. When you marry your vows clearly state's till death do us part if that is not plain enough english then well you should not tie the knot!
Basically everywhere you must wait a year to divorce or have some very costly and good attorneys like the rich. But even then you can file for divorce but that doesn't mean it's over it takes time and that in itself can be a pain then you have to deal with property, custody battles if any, financial battles, all in all make sure the person you marry you know there true colors before you walk down the aisle. It sounds to me like you should you are miserable and he treats you like crap. Life is way to short to live unhappy especially in an unhappy relationship. God Bless and good luck.
2007-03-15 20:16:42
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answered by Livinrawguy 7
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Having gone through what you are talking about for 31 yrs (all but one kid out of 4 grown), it wasn't easy to get the divorce, but it was worth it. It's like most of your life has been given up for someone who didn't appreciate it or was worth it. It's hard to start over if you decide you want someone else, and it's not easy to get to know anyone. So, why would you want to be much older when you can still make a chance if you take it.
2007-03-15 20:19:32
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answered by msthinkpositive 5
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I disagree. in case you made it harder to get married, human beings may basically stay at the same time - exceedingly very such as they do now - basically shacking up and making little ones. Marriage is a sturdy issue. One ought to make a sturdy issue as straightforward as plausible to do. households favor order, and a sturdy marriage can carry that. If 2 adults want to be at the same time, enable them be at the same time. Divorce should be more beneficial accessible besides. If a married couple would not want to be at the same time, spoil it up. the real artwork needs to bypass into the certainly marriage section. If human beings did as a lot making plans, money, and attempt into an certainly marriage as they do right into a wedding ceremony, i imagine we may see a magnificent shrink in the divorce price. Of all the adolescents that i know that are starting to be married in the finest 10 years, i visit imagine of one million possibly 2, that are nevertheless at the same time. i'm speaking about possibly 10-20 couples. they basically are not making the shrink. they look to die out on the 7 year hump. i visit't imagine of any the position divorce hasn't arise. what's amazingly unhappy, is that I actually have seen some marriage self-destruct earlier the human beings are finished paying off the marriage. I agree that there should be more beneficial beforehand artwork finished earlier getting married if that's what you recommend by ability of "making it harder", yet i imagine creating particular human beings know what they're entering into at the same time as they get married and making particular they know what they can ought to positioned right into a wedding ceremony for it to achieve fulfillment is a more beneficial useful purpose.
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answered by ? 4
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Can't you try and do it amicably? That seems excessive $$$ to divorce. Here in the states they have sort of do it yourself divorces that have mediators/lawyers to sort it out so that it doesn't have to be so expensive. But if he is that hateful you have to get away, somehow, even if it's just gradually. Cut him out of your life in little ways and then in bigger ones. Search out supportive people to be around and for clubs/interests etc... that you can do on your own. Become independent - it will make you strong. Eventually you will leave him. Don't let him ruin your life. So you married the wrong man. It was a mistake. But you can change things. Plus, you don't want your kids to see this as how things are - do you want your boys to treat their women this way? Do you want your daughters to think a verbally abusive and demeaning relationship is normal? Do you want them to be miserable too? They absorb what they see.
FIGHT! What have you got but your life? It's all the time you get. Don't waste it on him.
2007-03-19 14:00:16
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answered by slipstreamer 7
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Poor little thing...Isn't there any other way the marriage could be saved? Have you tried the marriage counsellor? Really tried all the means and everything possible? Well in the end, if nothing comes out of it, I guess you have to wait for the kids to grow up and maybe get the divorce.
2007-03-15 20:20:05
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answered by Ashley 4
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Maybe to make people think twice before deciding to give away your life savings for some silly courtrooms and lawyers. There is no best time to get a divorce. It hurts everybody. But there's an old saying "the sooner the better".
2007-03-15 20:41:33
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answered by KampunG 1
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Don't wait for the kids to grow up they are feeling just as much pain as you are. You have to show them you are strong and life doesn't have to be this way. Start documenting what he is doing and saying. If need be get a restraing order & have proof to back up your accusations. Plenty of lawyers out there that will take the case if your husband will have to come out of his pocket in a big way.
2007-03-15 20:13:38
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answered by calimom3 2
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I tis compound interest my friend. Easy to invest just taxed hard when you try to pull out!!(sorry for the pun) However I would simply advise men that you buy now or later. It almost makes escorts and prostitutesd attractive because you pay up front rather than let the interest build.
2007-03-15 20:15:38
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answered by me 2
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dear, i wish that all your wishes to come true... but mean time, if you don't have plans of marrying again, don't divorce... just go on your separate ways... good luck.
2007-03-15 20:21:54
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answered by Princess Kym 1
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im bout 2 divorce thank god mine is only gonna b about 200 - 300
2007-03-15 20:10:50
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answered by ? 5
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