First of all I'm the type of guy that will do anything sexually for a woman that I'm attracted to but....My new girlfreind has told me straight out that she doesn't enjoy sex unless I am totally aggressive and dominant with her...I've tried to fulfill her wishes but she always says I didn't go far enough for her...and the things that she has asked I think are too extreme for me ie. slapping her, ripping her clothes off, calling her very vile things and even spitting in her face on occation.......
I like this lady and outside the bedroom she is a very confident educated and professional woman...
Do you think that the things she is requesting are too extreme...
or should I just lighten up
Ladies what is your experience with being submmisive
And Men what is your experience with submissive ladies
Help
2007-03-15 20:05:57 · 11 answers · asked by HereForTheBeer 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ew.
2007-03-15 20:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You'll just have to decide to what extremes you are ready to go to fufill her, man. She may be turned on by being spat upon now, but what next? Because, and you can take my word for it, there would be no ending to this. I know that maybe an exciting promise for a guy but imagine a scenario in which nothings seems to work anymore (not 3 some, not rape, not sadomy, not even having sex with animals or dead people). That's what you are going into bro. THIS is how they all started out. Think about it. The way i see it, it's not kinky-ness that this girl wants. It's psychiatrical help. If you love her, you won't just give her what she wants. You try to provide her with what she needs FROM YOU. Love, is what she needs. Trust, is what she needs. Security, is what she needs. The rest she'd have to figure out by herself. Be there for her, if you love her. At the end of the day, your sticking around will mean much more to her than the pathetic bu-ll$hit she is asking you to do now. And you'll actually end up having a relationship that you'll both enjoy. It's your choice.
2007-03-16 03:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Biqo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm submissive, but it sounds like she is fetish. If she likes rough sex, and being controlled like that, it isn't merely submissive, it's a different form of control she's taking... she is into really rough and probably even crazier stuff than what's she's asked of you so far... she's probably into binding and whips, etc. If it is too much for you, you may want to move on and find another partner... they only get worse, and if she is saying that you are not fulfilling her, you're not likely to change, and she may leave you anyhow.
Submissive is just letting the other partner take control of speed, positions, etc. Look in your heart and feel if she is worth suffering like this for, or if you want to change for her.
2007-03-16 03:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..Yeah, shes one of those "U.C.F.'s"(undercover freaks)..all you should really do is when you two are outside the bedroom but casually and comfortably talking..kind of joke about it..and be like "Man, you are so adventurous in the bedroom..i don't think i can keep up" and just explain what you mean..and just ask her like, how long shes been into that kind of submissive stuff..once you know more about the whys ..you may be able to get around it and..like.."tame" her a bit..if thats what you want.
2007-03-16 03:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Minty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no point to a to this relationship if all you two is want sex. Its not heading any where but the ground . So are you in this for all the right reasons or for all the wrongs reasons think about that. Because its sounds like you just want her for sex. Not what a relationship with a happy ending sorry.
2007-03-16 03:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As others have said, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. There is also the possibility that things could go too far and she could get seriously hurt. Maybe both of you could compromise, but just know that you have the right to say no to anything she suggests.
2007-03-16 03:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay.. I can understand slapping (on the butt or something)... and....I can understand ripping her clothes off... but spitting in her face???? LOL..
doesn't matter if she's a professional woman... obviously you don't dig this and it's okay...not every guy is into this kind of sex...don't try to be something you're not...I don't think you're sexually compatible..sorry
2007-03-16 03:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you are really a match. If you are a match, you are the one that has to change. Not her. Can you do this regularly without thinking that youare raping someone. If your conscience is bothering you, I would think that you should stop immediately.
That's the way I see it anyway.
2007-03-16 03:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yea..they are way over the top...look for a new girlfriend..there is no future in this relationship
2007-03-16 03:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Olive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for a spat happening between her and you and she recording you going to extreme and you getting booked for rape and torture
2007-03-16 03:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋