Am I heartless? A bit long, but would appreciate advice.?

Question

I have a former best friend. We've known each other for about four years. But he's just wasting away his life having fun while I've already graduated and am working (I'm younger by two years), and our view points and lifestyles are now vastly different. We've drifted apart, especially since he left me all alone in a foreign country (to which I had never previously been) and other nasty passive attacks against me for rejecting his affections. Now he has tuberculosis (TB) and is in the hospital. I'm afraid of contracting it and quite frankly feel we both have completely nothing in common anymore. I'm extremely busy with work and my boyfriend coming over from Australia. Also, he keeps asking me for money and has become eerily money-obsessed. Is it really so bad that I won't be visiting him? I know they sound like excuses, but I feel they're valid ones.

Answer 1

I don't think you should feel bad for ending the friendship, Nobody said you had to remain friends forever. People change and nothing lasts forever. That being said the fact that he is in te hospital is unfortunate, but ask yourself this; if you go to visit him, what will you have to talk about? Is the visit going to be uncomfortable for both of you? And if you are afraid of getting TB, then perhaps you should not go, but I think you should at least send a card and let him know you are thinking about him. You are not a horrible person because if you were you wouldn't be feeling badly about this. Good luck!

Answer 2

i don't be conscious of the first element about your pastime; what you do, once you're fairly strong at it, is it no longer accessible to replace this pastime and so on. yet in my opinion I definitely have dealt with some entire ******* and felt like there replaced into no way out. do not get too dramatic even if, if it really is that insufferable, quit. you should even if, attempt chatting with the boss or the better up, telling them what's bothering you and that you're feeling forced to go away because of it. in the journey that they don't fix it or grant you with a strong reaction, then go away! No pastime is fairly worth your sanity.

Answer 3

i myself have severed a relationship w/ somone who used to be one of my best friends, but that was because he did somthing terrible. going seperate ways w/ a friend because of differences in how you are living your life is just a part of life, but i think that if he is in a hospital, and he hasnt done anything really bad to you in the past, i think you should visit him, it would probably do him alot of good. and just because he isnt really 'going anywhere' or asked you for money in the past isnt really a good reason to not visit an old friend who is very sick.