I am completely unable to cheat on my wife. I've had many opportunities and each time I turn the women down. In my first marriage, I would have NEVEr passed up a chance for some side-love. In this one, I just can't do it. I cannot physically make myself cheat on her. I've tried. It just doesn't work for me. I believe I am really, truly in love. What do you think?
2007-03-15 19:35:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First wife cheated on me too, I'm quite confident, but you know how that goes, women rarely admit to anything. To be fair, men lie too, just not as much when it comes to cheating.
Secondly, I have given up trying to cheat. I had to test myself as I was very insecure not only about my marriage, but about my manhood as I was a victim of childhood sexual abuse.
The good news is though, I think I do really love this woman. I just can't seem to become interested in any other women, yet when I look at my wife I become an animal. It freaks me out and I only asked this question because I thought it was interesting considering my childhood and previous relationships with women. All of which I cheated on, without exception.
2007-03-15 20:17:37 · update #1
Hey Ron i am proud of you . to answer your question i to am like you in re guards to being unable to cheat . i have had many opportunities as well . and honestly i just could not do it. i would think about how much i would be hurting my husband and how much i love him and don't want him to be hurt. and i think cheating would be the worst kind of hurt in a marriage . and yes i believe you are truly in love .
2007-03-15 19:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you but it appears you have had been in places for these opportunities to be presented? I'm one to believe
whenever you marry it is for life and you should never even have the thought of cheating on your spouse. Marriage is a sacred bond and to defial it with adultery is just wrong. It sounds like you care for this women more then your first I hope you stick to your faithfulness and just keep loving your wife.
Just a thought maybe if you respected your first wife as much you would still be married?
2007-03-16 03:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you, not a lot of men admit to those things that you need.
You are really in love with your wife, Congratulations, she is a lucky woman. Now in the future, if you start to cheat then to fair to her you need to seek counseling or get out of the marriage. But for now you are in love. Good for you! Don't lose it.
2007-03-16 05:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sound good that u cant cheat with ur wife. Dont try to make side love and try to stable ur married life. Specially I think u r feel proud that u r unable to cheat or like that but remember in ur heart u r always trying to cheat with her otherwise u didnt feel that u r unable to cheat.
2007-03-16 02:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rifat Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a first, and it almost sounds too good to be true. She's either got a g--- centerpiece, or there really is one out of a thousand men who are worth being with in a marriage. You should be commended if this is the truth.
2007-03-16 02:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'm wondering is, why would you TRY to cheat? I would recommend talking to a marriage counselor or psychologist about this issue, because it sounds to me like some sort of deeply rooted inferiority complex bubbling to the surface in unhealthy ways.
2007-03-16 02:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of men should try be like you in the non-cheating department. But like all these people are saying, don't TRY to cheat! What is wrong with you!
2007-03-16 02:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating goes against everything I believe in. I wouldn't even start dating again until my divorce was final from my first husband, even after the papers were filed and signed.
2007-03-16 03:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't cheat on her; why have you got it on your mind? If you are sure she is for you; get rid of those negative thoughts. If you don't, eventually you will cheat. Do whatever it takes to erase it from your thoughts or it will ruin your relationship. You two need to get involved in projects to bring you closer.
2007-03-16 02:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very happy to hear that you love your wife enough not to cheat on her. and yes, that's what it is, love. so stop worrying, and stop trying to make yourself cheat! you know in your heart that you really don't want to.
you should be proud of yourself for loving your wife as much as you obviously do!
Best Wishes.
2007-03-16 02:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋