Why do step moms get jealous of a their boyfriends/husbands child? I think it's very childish. They don't get it, children will always be have their daddy, and she will just be one of those "women" he messes around with. My friends step mother has to get her own niece [she has no kids over her own] when my friend and her daddy of coarse girlfriend, are going out to the mall. Or something like that. She drove all the way to Duncanville (over 1 half hour away from Dallas) just to get her so that my friend and her niece can be even. I mean let her spend time with her own daddy, and you stay home! I can't stand step mothers these days. Why do they act to childish?
2007-03-15 19:32:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my step mom did the same thing. My dad would try to take me somewhere and she would try and get him to do what she wanted which was stay home and watch tv. They feel left out adn think that the kid will take all his time away. I only saw my dad on wednesdays and everyoner holiday and weekend. I didnt see him that much but she was still a b i t c h. She let her daughter, 5 years younger than me destroy my stuff when I stayed the weekend and she would say...why did you bring it over if you liked it that much? And you know what would happen? My dad would take me shopping to replace what was destroyed and she would say why dont you take my daughter shopping as well. He would say her stuff was not messed up and didnt need anything. If anything I should have been the one jealous because they lived with him and I did not get to see him that much. Tell your friend to ignore it and be super sweet to her dad just to get on the ladies nerves
2007-03-15 21:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....I'm a step mom. And, it's not easy being one especially if your stepdaughter doesn't want a realtionship with you. It works both ways. Sometimes the stepdaughter is threatened because there is a new woman in their dad's life. Or, they have this fantasy that mom and dad are going to get back together and the new woman is in the way. I have 2 stepdaughters. They both live with us. One I've raise since she was 3 and treated her just like my own. Her mother didn't have anything to do with her for about 3-4 years. Then, "poof" she magically appears and becomes mother of the year. In the mean time, I just sit back and watch as she recieves all the little gifts made at school, the mother's day luncheon, etc. It really hurts. But, I'm the one who makes sure her homework is done, takes her to the doc, makes sure she has nice things, etc. It's a very difficult situation. I don't say anything, because my daughter loves her piece of crap mother. So, what can you do? It's a thankless job at times. I really love this little girl, but, even though her mother did terrible things to her, I will always play second fiddle to the biological witch.
2007-03-16 04:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little harsh. I am both a step child and a step mother and neither is easy!
I expect your friend's step mother wanted to do the right thing and thought your friend and her niece might enjoy each other's company. Perhaps part of the problem is that she doesn't really know how to be a step mother because she isn't a mother and she's just trying to do her best.
2007-03-15 22:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that but have you ever been a step mother or a step daughter
Im 11 years older than my step daughter ive tried to be her friend ive tried to be like a mum to her and still nothing works she lies to me is mean to my daughter from a previous relationship who i might add has only ever know my partner as a dad untill my step daughter told her that he wasnt her daddy
Yes step mothers flounder and we might seem childish sometimes maybe your friends step mum just needed a family friend around to make dealing with your friend easier
and as for staying at home and letting the kid go out with daddy every weekend is that what your mother does?
Step mums try to be a mother to you while they are with your dad we try a hardest to fair to both kid and dad but guess what you can please some of the people all of the time and you can please all of the people some of the time but you cant please your step daughter ever because no matter what you do your trying to take her daddy away from her
2007-03-15 23:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by infinate_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason is simple...they want to be number one in their guy's life, but if a man is a half way decent father his kids will always come first. I know what you mean...not first hand but, my daughter is now an adult an the major reason she refused to visit her dad these past couple of years is that everything they did, everywhere they went (even just to have a chat in the living room of his home) his girlfriend was there. My daughter couldn't have a private convesation with her father and finally told him to get her a plane ticket home because she had enough. So for the past two years he has been grabbing every chance his employer gives him (his company has offices out here as well) to come out so he can spend ONE DAY with her because she refuses to visit him back in New York. Of course his girlfriend doesn't mind...she get's him 360 days out of the year...the other 5 are the days he gets to visit with his now adult daughter...
2007-03-15 21:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad's new wife is a horrible woman. She has hated me since the beginning. Because my dad isn't my biological father so she thought there was something other than father daughter relationships going on between us. It was ridiculous. My dad finally got sick of me and her arguing now he just don't even bother getting involved. He now told her that if it ever came down to it and it came to choosing he would choose me over her. So I'm like haha. She's just an evil woman. She always bad mouths me and thinks her two older boys are saints and are perfect while I'm just trash. She even poisoned my dads dog because it was getting in the way of her and my dads relationship. I don't eat there unless I see her cook it for one, and if it's leftovers heck no, I don't know if she puts stuff in that, sooner or later she may do it to me!
2007-03-16 00:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your friend tell you that this bothers her? Or does this bother you, not being the one to go to the mall with your friend.
Sweetie, never get bent out of shape for someone else's dilemma. If you do, ask yourself why, when it's not you who has to deal with it.
If your friend vents about this, then suggest to her to ask her dad to make a day for just the two of them.
And tell her to talk to her step mom about what she feels. Granted she is an adult, but a person too, with feelings, insecurities, thoughts all about this situation. Be kind.
2007-03-16 00:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because you spot she is termed your doorstep mom because she stepped into the picture in case you want to placed it that way... even if she will be in a position to be no longer something yet your dads x spouse. it really is perchance so confusing for you yet ... you receives via it .. and for her son if he's not blood on the placement of then you definitely he's now no longer your doorstep brother both....
2016-11-25 23:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are so right i use 2 have a step mom and she was so jealous hearted i couldn't stand her, she was so jealous of me and my father, and u know what i told her one day "I was here before u came in 2 the picture and i'll be here when u gone"! And guess what she's gone and i'm not!lol
2007-03-15 19:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by BLESSED AND TTC #1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r right.... remember step mother can't take place of own mother.
2007-03-15 20:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dinesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋