well when we have their 3year old son on our weekend she always blames us for him not wanting to go home and she then blames us because she dont have anything to do over the weekend .go figure
2007-03-15 19:17:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are providing their son with a happy, normal home. I suspect he doesn't get that with her. So whether you mean it or not, you are "turning" the child against her. Just by being normal ! Go figure.
She senses it, too. There's not much she can do about it, except vent her frustration.
What to do? Let her take it out on you, rather than risk her taking it out on the child. If she DOES go for the child, sue for full custody.
2007-03-17 14:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously need a hobby or a date. But don't tell her that. Let her figure it out. After all, she is an "adult". Even her three year old son does not want to go home to her. Obviously, there must be something wrong with her and not with anyone else. Let her wallow in her misery and keep smiling on!
2007-03-15 19:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it could be becauses e misses her son. Plus, she knows that she has to be the main parent-the one hs is with all week, and on her weekends. As for nothing to do over the weekend you have his son, if she has nothing to do-that is on her. That is where she misses her son. She is accustomed to being there for him. She could find things to do, like reading good books, going bowling with friends, or to the mall, to the movies, etc. Depending on her budget. Or, she can go for walks at the park, beach, etc. As again, for the child not wanting to go home--he must be having a really good time with his dad, and with you. Blaming, either she doesn't want to take certain responsibilities for herself (like what to do on her weekend when you have the child). Or, she could be angry still over the divorce. Please, consider all of you sitting down and talking over this stuff. Healing in hearts (especially hers) needs to take place. When she is ready. Plus, I just had this thought, maybe on your weekends with the child, allow about half an hour before he is to go back to his mom, to settle down, like maybe read him a book. Start talking with him about going home to his mom, to help him prepare for going back home. How it will be good to see his mom, and go home to his toys and friends, etc. It doesn't sound like you have any concerns about his mom and his safety, and that is really good. I think it's just her hurting from the divorce, and you two needing to help prepare the child for going back home with his mom at the end of his weekend with you. I wish you all the best. Take care.
2007-03-15 19:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunnybun I like dat and true. She has 'nothing to do', umm sound like sombody need a man.
2007-03-15 19:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by animatelifeforce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you picked a man who slept with a woman with self esteem the size of a lemon so you tell me.
2007-03-15 19:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's Crazy and jealous of you...loll
2007-03-15 19:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋