In my past relationships, I was able to imagine my children, home and career with the person I was with but, with my husband I can't imagine anything. I don't even see any children in our near future. Is this a bad thing?
2007-03-15 19:13:04 · 18 answers · asked by joejoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sometimes my guy disillusion me but we stick it through and we are bonded for life because we have communication even though he is forgetful unless you feel a connection with him you wont be happy so why dont you start looking back on why you married him and see if you see a future
2007-03-15 19:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by lizziemoffles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very bad and what I find interesting is in the past you imagined seeing all this with guys you were dating. So why didn't you go thru this excersise with you husband during the dating process....That is what the dating process is for. Its not for the movie going or the bowling or the dinners and it sure isn't for the sex. Its to use those situations as a venue to observe how your date behaves in certain situations. Dating is the time to wonder about just the sort of things you mention. You asked good questions but for some reason you didn't for you husband while dating him and now you are kinda stuck. I mean you could divorce I suppose but what would the point be if all you are going to do is get back in the dating scene only to make a bad choice again becuase you didn't use the dating process to make a really good choice for a mate. Your call though....Good Luck!
2007-03-15 19:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's bad is you had these fantasies before marriage, and now that they could be a reality, they're gone. You need to think about what was going on in the past relationships that you don't have now. If this comes to light, discuss any part of it that's involving your husband to help get things on track in your future relationship. If it's only involving you and your actions, then you need to decide on if being with your husband is what you really want before it goes any farther.
2007-03-15 19:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no goals in mind then yes. When you marry you have some sort of goals in mind other than just sharing a house and expenses. If not then you either got married for the great sex or you needed to share living expenses or both. It's time to reevaluate why you got married and whether it's a good idea to stay that way. I would be finding out soon if I were you.
2007-03-15 19:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't good....You have to consider if you still enjoy spending time with him...does he make you happy.....I can't picture exactly what I want out of life with my husband but I know that I love him and he is my best friend so no matter what I know I will be happy....do you feel this way about your husband? This is something you need to talk to him about. I don't think that it is the end of your relationship but it could use a little communication...wish you the best~~~
2007-03-15 19:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by fruitylil'me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not bad, you married him or a reason, maybe with him you don't want kids, I mean I wanted kids until I met my husband who i am fully planning on spending the rest of my life with and I can't imagine kids, maybe you are having too much fun with being a couple and you don't want to rush parenthood nothing wrong with that, enjoy your relationship.
2007-03-15 19:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe is there anything going on in the maraige that should not be happing or do u think that u r in love with one of ur ex's i would say if u can't imagine anything with this guy then maybe u need to sit down and think of why u married him and what made u fall in love with him yes i think this is a bad thing but i hope that i am wrong good luck
2007-03-15 19:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not.
You imagined that you will have a future with in your previous relationships, and it didn't work out.
That doesn't mean this one will not work out to be the life you want for yourself along with your guy. Maybe you are afraid the relationship won't last and this is stopping you from thinking about your future with this guy and how it's going to be.
Just think about now and how to make the relationship stronger now, in order for it to have a strong foundation for a future filled with love and commitment.
2007-03-15 19:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that you may not worry about that today. possibilities are extreme your "acceptable names" gained't in good structure along with your new child or possibly your flavor in names will change. also the husband may have a say even in case your names are acceptable to him. in case you eventually end up marrying someone with a nasty very last call then perchance use both very last names for the newborn? i do not attempt to rigidity about it because i visit't change who i appreciate and that i particular won't be able to change his call so if that issues arises i visit administration it then. wish this facilitates :)
2016-11-25 23:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course thats bad, especially when you just found out that you dont have a future after you're married. This is why I think people need to not rush into marriages. You should get a divorce if you feel that you dont love him anymore.
2007-03-15 19:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably should have thought about this BEFORE you married, because now you are going to hurt someone who you love and who loves you. I broke up with my boyfriend after nearly two years because i couldnt picture my future with him and now 5 months on i realise i was just with him to be with him and that i prefer him just as a friend, make the split up amicable, the love and desire needs to be there!!
2007-03-15 19:29:29 · answer #11 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋