I've posting some other questions on here regarding my husband spanking me and our daughters. I know most people spank their kids. And I know that spanking your wife isn't as popular as it use to be but I still know personaly plenty of other wives who are spanked for punishment by their husbands. It is NOT abuse because I accept my spankings(even though they do hurt alot). Why are so many people aganist this?
2007-03-15 19:05:40 · 23 answers · asked by Kate M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The scriptural and ethical basis for "domestic discipline" is pretty weak. Accepting an abusive relationship doesn't mean it isn't abuse.
I read your other questions, too. Your husband makes you stand half naked in the corner for time-outs and doesn't care who sees you. I don't think anything the Yahoo! Answers community says can convince you that this is a problem -- you're obviously quite happy with being treated like a naughty toddler. The only place you'll find answers is with a trained professional therapist. I hope, for the sake of your daughters, you get it.
2007-03-19 07:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
ok, the whole thing is wrong, i've looked at your profile and you have about four questions on the issue of your husband spanking you and your daughters. ovbiously you want to know what other people think, well you have to realize that most of us, except for maybe some other sickos out there, know it's not normal!!! if you get off on being spanked, then great, it's not abuse. but if it's for punishment then there's someithng wrong with your husband, you're an adult, you should be able to learn from your mistakes not get beaten! also who punishes your husband when he does something wrong??
and as for him spanking your daughters, age 12 and 16, that is totally wrong, a man should not be allowed to spank his teenage daughters, especally if he does it to you too, have you ever thought of what else he might be doing to them.
i really think you need to get some help and leave your husband or something, your children are growing up in a horrible, unhealthy environment and you have to leave or get help !!!!
2007-03-18 03:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest, it is not such a bad thing if your husband spanks you discreetly and you are accepting of it because you want it. DO not let your kids know or find out and do not allow yourself to do it so that your husband can be in control all the time. It is a very touchy subject for some, but if it wasn't a desired situation, there wouldn't be thousands of websites about adult spanking and domestic discipline!
2007-03-19 15:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rachelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well , if everyone in the family is getting spanked-except the husband, who punishes him when he has done bad? Don't tell me he is perfect, because no person is perfect! If the father has to spank the mother in front of the children, can you just start to imagine the example he is setting for the children? Children know exactly what's going on! So, not only will it be OK for the children to spank their kids when they grow up and get married, but they can also hit/spank their spouses? Guess we won't be needing Police officers? Wee, the female Officers won't be able to come to work anyway, they will be hurt at home from being spanked for being a bad girl!!! HOW STUPID!!!!!!!! GET EDUCATED PEOPLE!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 02:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because in today's society man and wife are more as equals. In taking a spanking you are stepping down from that position into more of a child's role. There is nothing wrong w/yielding and admitting that you were in the wrong, but for some spanking is something you do to a child. Once you reach a certain age and know right from wrong, you no longer need a spanking to reinforce it. But who are we to judge and tell you how to live. If it works for you and that's what you want to do, go right ahead. That's why god gave man free will.
2007-03-16 02:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ericka H 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are asking this question.
Your husband spanks you because he thinks you are just a child that doesn't know how to do things right or is doing something wrong.
You are an adult for goodness sake and you know what you do and why you do it, and if you did something wrong you could just talk about it with your husband. WHY SPANK YOU?
Even your child shouldn't be spanked for whatsoever reason.
Your child will look at her father like this big monster who spanks her and her mom.
You are an adult, act like it and never allow your husband to spank either you or your girl.
2007-03-16 02:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by peachy 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Although spanking is frowned upon, I do believe in spanking children as I did my own. I don't believe in bruising however. The real point is spanking a child to teach them right from wrong is acceptable in my book because some children misbehave to test those principles. Adults on the other hand will listen to each other and discuss problems as they arise. There should be no adult that requires spanking for punishment. That is abuse - plain and simple!!!
2007-03-16 02:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
Is he is spanking you for 'punishment' as part of a sexual roleplay in a BDsm scene, and you are both enjoying it and have a safe word in case he gets carried away... it's not abuse and is nobodies business.
If however he is taking it seriously and punishing you as he feels a need to control, and is actually hurting you.. then that exceeds the bounds of sex play and and is indeed wife abuse.
And who are you telling this to anyway? Did the cleaning lady find his toy box of floggers, whips, and cats?
2007-03-16 02:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by endorable 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Ya if you let your husband spank you then ya you do have some issues but since you're an adult then that's your buisness. I spank my kids and I think that if is fine, I don't beat them but a slight smack on the but gets their attention.
I do think that by your husband spanking you that it teaches your daughters to be below men and that it is okay to be smacked around. If I was you I would look into therapy.
2007-03-16 02:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by kirby_4740 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You are suppose to protect your kids.If your husband is hitting you then it is against the law.It is called assault.I realize that some people do this as a sort of sexual thing but you didn't state that. Your husband has no right hitting you. As for the kids...shame on you!!!You are teaching them that it is OK to get hit. What are they going to grow up to be?Do you want your girls to be hit by there boyfriends or husbands ? are you going to say thats ok? Lady you have been brainwashed and you need to get help for the sake of your kids.It 's never ok to teach your kids to take abuse or give it.I feel sorry for you.If I had a sister that was doing this to herself I would take away her kids until she got the help she needed...Then I would call the cops on the husband... Please seek help.You have the internet..Enter the real world and put those fingers to work I wish you luck
2007-03-16 02:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by Angelbaby 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋