ok i had a baby with my husband 8 years ago and than we broke up for a year.well he got another girl pregant but they broke up.this was 7 years ago.like a yr later we got back together and had 2 more kids.well he doesnt see his son which i keep telling him he needs to but i cant make him and she use to not let him see him cause of me until he tookher to court now she has to let him but he stopped seeing him.if i tried to be a good stepmom she didnt like it but if she thinks i dont care she gets mad like i cant win with her.well now shes making friends with all his family and she even went to my father in laws wedding .but why would she want to if she knows we will be there?whats wrong with her?what do you think i should do?
2007-03-15 18:59:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont worry about what she does. The only thing that matters is that he is neglecting his son. You cant make him see his son, but what kind of man does that? I think you should worry more about whats wrong with him then her.
2007-03-15 19:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See things from her point of view:
a man comes into her life perhaps telling her that he is going through a separation, or is unattached, u fall for his lies then fall pregnant by him, then when u need him the most with the baby he leave back to his WIFE!!
She then figures out that he left u after u got ur first baby, then ran back to u when she got a baby...so u where this time around the "safer" option to him!!!
She isn't going to harbor any good feelings towards u or ur husband, now is she??
She might not want ur husband to have anything to do with her child, but she does want the child to have family, a grandfather, aunties etc.
What u do, is let her be, leave her alone, only see to it that ur husband doesn't run away from this responsibility. (keep him going to see his son)
They both will see in the long run, that a child needs a relationship with their father, until he is old enough to decide for himself.
Stay strong (",)
2007-03-16 02:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be classy. Acknowledge her like you would acknowledge an acquaintance at work, do not talk badly about her or avoid talking about her at all, specially to his family. Do not let her get to you, at least not in public because this will show that you are self-confident and too much for her to handle. Talk to a trusted friend about it if she gets on your nerves and let it out. No cat fights, no bad mouthing, no bad anything. When people see you as classy, they will respect you and they will see her as trashy if she tries anything.
Obviously she is trying to pull something off. But trust your husband and communicate well with him.
It could be that she is just trying to get to know his family so she can have someone check on her child. Try to talk to her in a mature conversation and tell her how you are wanting to be a good step mother to her son and that you will not go in the way of her relationship with her son. Try to ease her worries. Also, tell her that you want to work things out with your own family and would like her to support your family's well being, after all, her son is also part of the family.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 02:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she figured that her relationship w/your father in law was more important than your dislike for eachother so she put it aside for the occasion.......or she just likes to stir things up and make a scene. She may like knowing she's making you uncomfortable. I say ignore it. Do the best you can and what you think is right. As long as you know that you're not doing anything wrong nothing can touch you.
2007-03-16 02:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ericka H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she wants Ur man back u have to follow what is court ordered to do so tell Ur hubby that he needs to see his son and Ur Kidd's needs to get to know there half brother as well now as for her talk to her and tell her u r not going anywhere and that u do care for her son and will love her son becouse he is part of the man u love and r married to if that don't help then maybe see about getting it parneting classes for step-parents and see if u can take her to court and make it were she has to take the classess to becouse it is only hurting the kidds and no one really wants to do that!!
2007-03-16 02:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants your hubbie in her life and not her son in his...... cause she tried to get your husband to come to her by not letting him see his son ,then now when he dont do it as much shes now coming to him
2007-03-16 02:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by david23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...what a complicated relationship....
2007-03-16 02:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woop her ***.. Jerry springer style
2007-03-16 02:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋