Is it wrong of me to snoop around my bf e-mails to find out he's been using escort service for a yr?

Question

being together for 7 yrs hitting our 8th in may.... I had no idea until two weeks ago... now dilemma when to confront him..

Answer 1

I think one of the other answers said it you must have had a suspicion to go through his mail. and it was proved. I have recently been trawling through my ex's history files and IM convs and have worked out she was cheating on me for awhile, it didnt make me feel any better but at least I know the truth and she has been able get the guilts.

I would say something to him and if you want to keep the relationship work out why he is seeing the working girls. He may want something he is unable to ask you for, either he is ashamed of it or you have said no in the past.

At least when you have it out with him its all in the open and you can move. Or you can say nothing pretend it didnt happen and live with it and eventually he will spill the milk or some other minor thing and you will go mental at him and he will have no idea why just think your loony.

Personally I think you are not doing anything wrong with checking his mail but unless you act on the information you get your just hurting yourself.

Answer 2

Not in my book. And he has every right to snoop in your email. Anyone that has had a bf for almost 8 years and is not married has a bf that is not really into the relationship. So why would it surprise you if he was using an escort service? I wonder if in the last two weeks you have been "close" to him? Why are you waiting? If you waited 2 weeks, why not 2 months or even 2 more years? Set your boundries and stick to them.

Answer 3

To be honest with you, me personally I dont think its wrong I would probably have done the same thing, but my question to u is he must of done something before to make you insecure about him and your relationship in order for you to be snooping around, But what I suggest is to confront him, the more you snoop the more u will know and it will hurt you more and u will keep dwelling on it until something comes about it, plus if you have been with him for a couple of years now, maybe his feelings are not all there anymore and he doesnt want to brake up with u cause u been together for such a long time but he feels that maybe by doing that it will keep ur relationship spiced up I guess or maybe hes a just a typical slimeball, BUT the whole point sweetie to stop puting urself in that aganizing position and confront him NOW! before he gives u something that u might regret later ( not worth it! )

Answer 4

Well ... you both have two wrongs to bring to the table.

Don't try to lie and say you found out some other way - or you're
just going to feel guilty and if he finds out, you'll never hear the
end of it.

I would confront him - apologize for reading his e-mail, tell him
WHY you were reading his e-mail - and then ask him about the
escort service.

There are legitimate uses for escort services, but certainly you
would tell your significant other if you needed them.

Answer 5

I already answered, but now you tell the real story. Set him up with a ho from this service, then meet him there with her. It'll cost you more than the relationship, but atleast you'll know he's been dogging you for years.

Answer 6

Just confront him now. The more you sneak around and the more you worry about it, the more miserable you'll be.

Answer 7

Yes, it was wrong but now you have to deal with it head-on. And get yourself tested right away for STDs, HIV/AIDS - he really could have put you at risk!

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

nope......... if hes using the services then he deserves it, also most time if you feel somthing going on then your right

Answer 10

Beware! Don't do it if your not prepared for the worse...I wish I hadn't.