He thinks he can get away with it because he bought me a ring and makes more money and married me 2 months ago. What is wrong with him? Why does he always have to threaten the relationship?
2007-03-15 18:50:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deal with what?
2007-03-15 18:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he can get away with it, and so far he has, he needs to realize so what if you have a ring and he makes more money, you are a person and therefore you should be able to let him know your feelings and he should listen and respect you.
I would talk to him about it, and if he isn't willing to meet you halfway then I would leave, no ring or money should stop you from being with the person that treats you like you should be treated. Marriage isn't a get out of jail free card, he needs to realize this.
2007-03-16 02:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with constant threats. It is a form of control. He thinks that by using finality as a weapon it will make you back down and he wins thus controlling the situation in his favor. However, I also don't agree in walking away. If you have a problem it comes down to communication and compromise on both your parts. Walking away from physical hostility is one thing, but walking away over a verbal disagreement is no more than avoiding the problem and it doesn't get resolved.
2007-03-16 02:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your NEW husband is wanting you to take the responsibility for his mess up's! He is NOT being a man like he should be, instead he is being a manipulated child. So, to stop you from walking out on him, he brings up the marriage, Leaves you thinking your wrecking the marriage! But we both know better, and I am positive he also knows. Your baby boy needs to GROW-UP. He needs to realize you also will only put up with that behavior for only so long too. Very insecure person, with low self esteem. Seek therapy if possible. Communication between the two of you is very important to save this marriage. Please note: NO ONE CAN CONTROL ANOTHER!
2007-03-16 02:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A ring has no more meaning than just a piece of metal.
It takes love to make it mean that its worth more than gold.
Money is empty of any emotion, except that of the greed it causes.
He refuses to open his ears and heart to you.
He would rather show you his wallet than his heart.
He married you for the wrong reason.
He wanted a trophy for his mantle and not a wife.
2007-03-16 03:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is leverage for him and he thinks he can win the battle with that type of leverage. What you are going through is normal because no matter if you lived together prior, being married is different. Your going through a dominance battle to find out how is in charge or the leader of the relationship. Either one of you will eventually become submissive or you will learn to balance things out, sometimes give in and sometimes don't.
2007-03-16 02:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ozzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control and manipulation. Keep walking and see what he does. What is the worst he can do? File for a divorce? That's what you would be looking for anyway if you walk away. See if he is a man of his word, or if he will beg you to come back. If he begs, then tell him what you will accept and what you won't accept in the relationship. Then stick with it.
2007-03-16 03:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him back the ring, tell him where he can stick his money and walk away. You have the ability to make this a promise, not an idle threat.
2007-03-16 01:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what you're saying, he has reason to believe that he's getting away with what he's done. You are his wife now, and you evidently wanted him enough to overlook his discretion's, or you wouldn't have married him. What good was it to go that far if you were going to cause this situation?
2007-03-16 01:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not explaining what you are dealing with if we knew this it would help. If anything it sounds like you have married a controlling jack a ss maybe you would be better off without him. Please when you ask a question make it detailed.
2007-03-16 02:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a controller... and you knew that, and you married him anyway. I'm afraid it's all downhill from here. It might be a good time to realize you made a mistake, and get out.
2007-03-16 01:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋