Prenups ? General Thoughts on this...?

Question

Whats everyones general feelings on prenups, i think when the time comes i will have one, although its such an awkward thing, i know if i was asked to sign one, i wouldnt have any problems in doing so, just generally whats every ones thoughts on this, and if you asked someone to sign one and they declined how would you react to that?

id just like to add, that i have been previously married, and from that marriage i have 3 children. Shouldn't i be protecting their interests also ?

Answer 1

A prenuptial agreement is just a safety net. If someone does not want to sign them, then they must not REALLY care about you.

For those who would think of arguing my point...
Would you have sex without a condom?
Would you drive a car without seat-belts?
Would you shoot the rapids without a life-jacket?
Would you drive a motorcycle without a helmet?

Answer 2

I have had some heated debates at work about this.

I am for prenups. If you love each other, it should be a non issue. The if you love me you wouldn't ask me goes both ways, If you love me you would not hesistate to sign it, because it would be worthless.

I am sure that the people that are divorced also started off by knowing that they will be together forever...let's live in the fairy tale happily ever after. Unfortunately people

I don't feel that it is going into the marriage not trusting your partner.

As the money that I have is family money, they should be protected from my decisions.

Answer 3

If I were handed a prenup I'd start walking...away. But then my own marriage was one based more upon the financial situation than anything else. Had we not been where we were financially we would probably have lived together for awhile before breaking up anyway. I think prenups depend upon the couple. Ione thinks the other one is out to screw them over and they feel they have something to hide they should probably get a prenup...however if their marriage is based on love and trust they don't need one.

Answer 4

In your situation I can see how a prenup would benefit you and your children, but I will tell you my situation, I married a man, we did not use a prenup because we know that we are going to be together for ever, I am not saying that you wont be together for your next wife forever, but some people see it as a "this marriage is going to fail" when it really isn't.

Answer 5

Nope, I wouldn't ever sign on. Not that my love or I have any real money, but in a hypothetical world where this was an issue, I wouldn't marry anyone who required it! I think it shows distrust, lack of commitment and that the partner asking for the prenup isn't ready for marriage.

Answer 6

When I got married, I had more assets thatn my husband. However, I feel that marriage is meant to be a true commitment. Sharing and all that. I put all that at risk because I truly love and trust the man. If I didn't , I would have never married him. But yeah, If he decides to F me over , I guess i'm screwed. But love is trust. you can't separate the 2.

Answer 7

My parents have worked thier whole lives for thier money. Had I been smart, I would have a nice chunk myself, but alas, I work, paycheck to paycheck. When my father dies, I wish he wouldn't, but when he does, I will inherit a nice sum, I guess.
My husband will see none of this.
My father worked his a$s off all of his life to support his family, before my husband came around. My inheritance has nothing to do with that. Hence, our pre-nup.
My husband married me for me, not EVER knowing what my Dad is worth.
I will get the money, but I will invest it, cuz he would blow it!!!

Answer 8

I think that it's a good idea. If they declined to do so, I would ask them why. If they say something like "if you loved me ...." that is not a real answer!