Friends after high school?

Question

I'm graduating in a few months, and I'm pretty scared. I'm excited for college, but I love my high school. IF it weren't for choir, theatre, my teachers, and a few really close friends...I'd be completely thrilled to leave! But I don't know how I'm going to give these things up. I have one or two friends that I can't imagine (or don't want to imagine) giving up. I know that next year I'm going to make lots of new friends, but right now, that's not very comforting. I have some really, really close relationships. Right now, I don't really need encouragment about how great next year is going to be...I get enough of that. I just want to hear about some real life stories about staying connected with best friends from high school. Have any of you stayed in close contact?

Answer 1

Sweetie - there is a whole, great big world out there waiting on you. Don't hang on to the high school stuff. If the close friends that you have are good and true, those friendships will survive over the years.

I am 28 years old and have been out of high school for 10 years - I had a lot of "friends" in high school and I haven't spoken to most of them since the summer after graduation. Like you, I had several very close friends - those people are the ones that I am still friends with to this day. Those are the friendships that have survived through college, marriages, distance, etc.

You are going to college and you are going to have the opportunity to meet a whole lot of new people. It is going to be hard being out of your "comfort zone" but, you will meet tons of new people and make a lot of new friends. I made more meaningful friendships in college than in high school.

Just remember this: Every single person in on incoming college freshman class is in the same situation that you are! Every single one of them is going to be looking for a new friend. Just be outgoing and friendly and you will be just fine!

You high school friends that are really your friends will stay your friends for years and years to come.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

This is so hard, but rarely do high school friendships last...you GROW UP and your lives change and you find out you really didn't have that much in common other than being in class with each other every day. I'm not saying that you won't maintain some of your relationships...you probably will, you seem like a sincere and loving friend and that means a lot to you. You are far more capable of long distance relationships...when I graduated from high school (in the stone ages) we didn't have computers and email and myspace, I can honestly tell you I haven't spoken to any person that I graduated from high school with in 30 years and this year is my 30th High School Reunion. Now that is not to say that I don't have a dear friend from my childhood, I do, she and I met in the 4th grade, unfortunately my parents moved me away in the 8th grade, but she was my Maid of Honor in my wedding, she is the aunt to my children and still my dearest friend...so if you work hard enough you can keep those friends. Good luck in your graduation, go out and make some wonderful memories of your senior year and then go out and make more with all of the new friends you will make in the upcoming college years.

Answer 3

It seems like it's hard, and it will be. Life gets busy and before you know it 5 years have already past. I graduated on '02 and I thought that I would never see my friends. I grew up with my friends since preschool and Daisy and Anthony have always been there for me....all the way til Senior year. I thought for sure that I would lose contact with them. I did for a little while, we'd email each other and call every once in awhile, and it simply broke my heart because it was not like it was before. But then we all decided to put a little work into our friendship, we rekindled it and are even better friends than before...which I never thought possible. Just don't give up hope. Friends love you no matter what, friends are always there to catch you when you fall and the cheer you on!!

Answer 4

To be honest, things will never be the same after high school. But keeping in touch by phone, on myspace, or even by scheduling lunch once a month (depending on where you're all going to school), can help ease the transition. It's so difficult when you come to the realization that you have to part ways with the people you're close with in high school, but I've been out for a few years now and still keep in touch with my close friends on a regular basis, but it's interesting to see how different our lives are now. It'll get easier, I promise!♥

Answer 5

i have stayed connected with three of my best friends from high school for over 14 or 15 years now. its not that hard but it is a two way street. two of them long distance but it works. i see them on holidays an some summers and make special trips on special events, but always keep in touch by phone or internet.

Answer 6

i'm still friends with my friends when i was still in high school.

a lot of things changed. hair color, body weight, fashion statement, religion and even marital status. most of them are already married.

there were times of joys, pains, indifference, distance and even absence... but we always get reconnected....

may be there really is an unseen tie that keeps on binding us together. the friendship and love grew within us and is continually growing. but be reminded that this is not MAGIC... it's always been HARD WORK.

Answer 7

Yes you can it is up to you and your friends to keep contact. you probably gonna have little time for each other because of school work at college but in that little time you can still go out invite each other on events. people only loose contact because they want to

Answer 8

10 well 11 years later and Jackie, Rose, Angie, Tina and I are the best of friends mind you being states away (NY, FL and MD) makes it impossible for us to see eachother every "special event" brings us together. I wouldnt trade them for the world!

Answer 9

I'm a junior, but last year one of my friends graduated. Now sometimes we chat because he gave me his e-mail. You should ask your friends for phone numbers and e-mails. I think it's the best way.

Answer 10

my best friends i have kept in touch with for a little over 10 years now it is up to you to keep in touch just keep calling and getting together