I thought that ridding myself of any type of indulgence such as these would allow me to think more clearly, but all it has done is make me realize how unhappy I am in life. Am I going about this the wrong way?
2007-03-15 18:28:28 · 14 answers · asked by Vegas♠Bound 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Because you still live in this world, and have to face all the worldly things that you still have to deal with.
2007-03-15 18:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had any drink or drugs since 04. But only Now am i starting to get a better grip on my emotional system and needs. Over the past 15yrs. or more I have been in and out of all kinds of "Twelve Step" rooms and,therapy. Basically, it is gonna take more than just putting the drink away, that's too easy. Basically, you probably want to Talk to someone, anyone that will understand what you're going through. Talk bra, talk to someone on a fairly regular basis. The more regular, the better. Us males often deal with our inner issues by burying them-it doesn't work. Which is one of the Main Reasons so many of us are in Prison.
2007-03-16 16:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry_S. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going about things perfectly. Stopping drinking has made you see things more clearly, you just don't like what you're seeing. The intoxicants weren't the source of your unhappiness, something else is. Maybe you just need to find some healthy activities to indulge in, maybe you need to make some other changes in your life, like dropping negative influences, career, etc., or maybe it's psychological and you may or may not need help to discover its cause.
Best wishes, man.
2007-03-16 01:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll celebrate 6 years clean at the end of this month, i can honestly tell you i'm just starting to get my life all together, it's a long process, keep it up, it takes time to feel better and really notice the good changes in your life. you are making the right choice here. I still think it would be nice to get loaded once a year but i know for a fact it wouldn't make me happier. What makes me happier is being sober and really enjoy life. I remember it felt weird to be sober at first, weird to feel things and care. Congratulation and i wish you the best
2007-03-16 01:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by ▌♠ ▌ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Alcohol is but a symptom of our disease." But please, continue not to drink and get professional help to help you understand it all. Most communities have a mental health agency which has a sliding scale fee. Just be sure the counselor you get is a state or internationally Certified Drug & Alcohol Counselor.
Secondly, go to Alcoholics Anonymous. They will NOT tell you that you are an alcoholic; there, only you can make that determination. However, they will help answer your questions, BASED ON THEIR EXPERIENCES. They pass a basket for donations, so the price is reasonable.
Good luck. Don't quit 5 minutes before the Miracle. GOD bless.
2007-03-16 01:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by woman of faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
were you a heavy drinker before you gave all that up? because you can pernamently mess up the balances of hormones in your brain sometimes and basically your brain depends on that substance to run smoothly. you may need anti-depressants or something. or maybe just a good workout. working out creates endorphines which make you happy. that will balance out excessive dopamine, which makes you sad.
if you weren't a heavy drinker though, you may just be sad. it happens to everyone. you can't just sit around and expect SOMETHING to make you happy. you have to do something to make yourself happy. find a new hobby, meet new people, do some volunteer work... maybe you're unhappy at your job? do something that you think will make you happy on a deeper level than being intoxicated.
2007-03-16 01:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ it's katie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are still unhappy. I think that because basically happiness first really has to come within your own self. You really cannot depend yourself on someone or something to make you happy at the end of the day. The state of your soul/mind, the way that you treat people and the pure love that you have in your heart determine your happiness inside your heart.
2007-03-16 07:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you shouldn't only be cutting the alcohol out...you should be replacing the time with things you love to do. that way you're not just sitting around thinking about how you could be drinking - you're getting active and making yourself feel good b/c you're still doing things you like to do.
2007-03-16 01:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way alot of the time.....mostly its because of bordem most of the time. Try to find something to make you feel good about yourself, i exercise it sucks while im doing it but when i am finished i feel really good about what i did. or maybe you need a dog, i dont think you are going the wrong route i just think you need to find something to keep yourself busy, but not work or anything something you cangenuinely feel good about doing
2007-03-16 01:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by jessilovesming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unhappy because you have not filled the void created by the absence of intoxication with other more productive pursuits like the pursuit of excellence in your field of work, or excellence in your civic life or community life...
2007-03-16 01:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get off the pity wagon. Drinking or not drinking. One is always going to have problems, personally I think drinkers have way more because they make poor choices. Anyway You are the master of your own destiny. We as individuals make the choice. we either chose to be happy or miserable, the amount of energy to be either or is the same. Make the right choice and be happy.
2007-03-16 02:01:37 · answer #11 · answered by tonal9nagual 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋